Is it really so bad?

I have been married for 12 years and my husband and I have 2 young children. We have always held rather alternative views but my husband has become much more extreme than me of late. His latest idea is to grow marijuana to sell so that he wont have to work as much to support the family, even though he only works part-time already. In the past I have tried to be the breadwinner but found that I still had most of the housework etc. to do because he would rather be doing other things, and housework just wasn't important to him. This latest idea really gets my back up, to the point where I have almost had enough. Because I wont agree to his idea, he has not so subtly made it clear that there will be no money spare for anything he doesn't consider necessary, and every time a bill comes he makes it clear that it is my "fear" that is making our financial situation so tight. I have said clearly that his idea does not sit well with me, for reasons I can't put into words, but he simply keeps repeating "I just can't understand what the big deal is". I don't believe that is a respectful response, even if he doesn't understand it should be enough that I am not OK with it. When we made a decision to have children, it was with the understanding that he would be the one to support the family financially. Now I feel that HE has decided he wants to change the way he earns money and he is resentful towards me for preventing that. It is my belief that I have a right to say how that money is earned, particularly when there is a risk of him getting caught and it affecting the whole family. I could go out and work myself, he has said that he wouldn't grow then, but I would end up doing too much again and I don't want to get back into wearing myself down because I want to be there for my children. My husband has a way of talking things around to make it seem as if I am being ungrateful, so I often doubt my judgement. He also is one of t hose "nice guys" that people can never imagine being anything but nice. The problem isn't that he is nasty, but he is incredibly manipulative, whether consciously or not. I just can't help feeling that I was offered a particular situation and now the rules have been changed on me. I understand that people change, but surely this is not one of those instances where I should just sit back and accept those changes?

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