why can't he see my child was in the picture first?

I just need advice on how other people would approach th is sort of situation. Here is the back story...i have been married to my husband for 2 years now and we met each other when our 2 daughters from previous relationships went to preschool together. They are now both 8 and we have a 11 month old son together now. My family is made up and we have another due this coming January. Well everything is fine and dandy until it comes to my daughter. She is not very receptive to the marriage. She usually stays quiet when she confess over and will talk but not as much as his daughter and he keeps comparing them when they are two completely different kids. I had my daughter very early and he had his at my age now and that keeps coming up BC he says i had no right having a child so young. I don't feel like i need to hear what i needed to do as a teenager.he's my husband not dad. He constantly talks about my daughter as if she is this horrible chil d BC she is not always thinking about rainbows and butterflies. I do everything for his daughter and the couple things i ask are try with my daughter and maybe she will come around but stop making her feel like she is not welcome in this home. I feel like i am not welcome and i run this housE. Since having our son i have been a stay at home mom and that means i have plenty of time to spend with my kids but he doesn't allow it. Makes me feel like we are mooching off of him. He always says he doesn't owe us anything. I am sick and tired of it. He says there is a pecking order here and my daughter is at the bottom of it because of her attitude and because of her dad. I talk to him on occasion about my daughter but my husband swears he still has feelings for me and now my daughter is guilty by association. I feel guilty for many reasons my daughter can tell that i am not happy with the way he treats her, i feel like i can't be a good stepmom because i barely get to see my o wn kid, i am excited to be having another child but i feel like he wants me to squeeze my daughter out of the picture. I just want to take my 3 kids and live happily with them because i know they will always be there for me. Am i being unrealistic and a bit dramatic because i am pregnant or should i keep in this marriage because i do have 2 of his kids? Any words would be great thanks! Posted via Mobile Device

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