A sex/affair question

Today my wife said that when she hates on me, she hates on all men and wants nothing to do with any kind of sex or relationship with any man. That when I (in her mind) piss her off, she is pissed at all men. Is that even possible? I had a conversation with her about cheating. Our marriage has been on the rocks (I have a whole thread about it) and it is always in my head that she could be cheating. Talking about it today, I asked her straight up if she wanted me for security but wanted to just date/have sex with other men. We had a little positive breakthrough today where she agreed to work on the marriage if I actually work on it and we both agreed we both need to change and stay changed. Prior to this she was pushing me to accept that we stay legally married but have no kind of committed relationship outside of parenting roles. We haven't had sex in a little over a month, but we still fool around and she is always the one to initiate it. She has kept wearing her wedding band 24/7 and sleeps in the bed with me. Her wanting to stay legally married and living together but being not in a committed relationship to me smelled a lot like she wanted to be free to date other men but to have the security of having me around. She says when she is mad enough at me to not want to be with me that she is mad at all men and wants nothing to do with them. I said "..well it is possible that maybe you need me for a back up or security while you explore other guys, emotionally and sexually..you know, maybe you feel neglected by me and there are guys who will give you attention and affection without all the work.." she repeated what she had said about when I turn her off she is turned of to all men. It seems so unlikely to me, like she is throwing poop around and hoping it sticks. On the other hand, when she is happy with me we have a highly sexually charged relationship, she becomes like uber sexual and does seem turned on by men in general. To the point of us watching porn together and the porn she likes is about 10x more hardcore than what I like. She gets turned on by all the male genitalia with me as the centerpiece. She will even watch porn and masturbate when I am not around, sometimes two or three times a day or as much as possible- which really blows my mind. When we are not getting along it is like her sex drive shuts down. No sex, no porn, no masturbating. The occasional fooling around (she will dry hump me and so on) that doesn't really turn into anything until our relationship turns a corner for the better and we get along. So could it possibly be true that when I turn her off she is just turned of period?

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