Am I the only one this happens to?

So I was at lunch with a dear friend a week ago. We had not seen one another for years and were catching up. Eventually she began to elude to some issues she and her husband were having. I think she was a bit shocked that I was not shocked. Thanks to this forum I believe I was able to have her consider a different direction to take and I believe she is implementing the 180. One questions she asked was if every married couple goes through the kind of lethargy and strife that hers was. I answered that I believe most do. Marriage takes a great deal of effort in order to be successful. Today I was talking to my best friend. He has really been there for me during my own personal struggles. Just listened, encouraged and never criticized. His wife recently got and advanced degree and took a job in academia. He was thrilled for her. She had been a stay at home mom and he was anxious for her to be part of the professional world and bring in some cash. He told me today that since she got her Masters she has been lording it over him and telling him that he really needs to start improving himself. Evidently he is boring and needs hobbies mind expanding activities. He is not quite sure how he is going to incorporate that into his job which requires 70% travel Mississippi west. He is a bit annoyed that she seems to forget who paid for her degree and who has been sacrificing heavily being the sole provider for the past 26 years. While he was telling me this I could feel little flags were going up and then he told be she let him know recently that she planned on eventually moving to Europe for a year and he was welcome to come but if was not it did not matter because she was going. Honestly I did not know what to say and I am glad I did not say anything at that point because I did not want to react emotionally. Needless to say the red flags are flying high at this point. I am heartsick for my two friends. They are great people that love their families. They both certainly deserve better than what they are facing currently. I want to give my best friend advice because I fear for what is already happening to him. I do not want to jeopardize my relationship with him. We have been close for 35 years. Any advice?

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