| Well I never thought you could be financially comfortable but still have money issues...but apparently you can! My wife and I just are at the other end of the spectrum when it comes to finances. So much so now that I really wonder if it has become a deal breaker for me. I would appreciate any comments. We have recently come through a time with myself battling cancer but having disability, and then now back to work. While I was on disability, I lost my job but still had disability. I was not worried and I was able to find another 3 months later. During the time of losing my job, but still being on disability, we had some blowups over myself wanting to replace bathroom towels for $8.99. I also was chastized for buying microwave frozen peas and not an entire bag one night. We spent nothing, even though we were still making almost $150k a year. Once back to work, my wife went to the complete opposite. Even though we had almost new furniture, it was replaced with antique furniture she wanted for $3000. I did not believe it was the right time, or necessary more so, but she went ahead without me agreeing. I have explained to her that like the joy she received from her antique furniture, I would be like a kid in a candy store if I could get my new dream vehicle. I joked that maybe I will just go ahead like she did on the furniture and by my car next year. She said there is no comparing, because hers was $3000 and my car costs $40000. I realize there is a difference but we knew at some point in the next few years we would replace my vehicle. If it brings me joy and we can afford it without any problem, I do not see an issue.Unfortunately no matter how much I explain our financial situation to her, she just never feels like we are ok. Now we have come to my wants after battling cancer and getting back to travel and life. She does not want to travel this year though due to money concerns. There are no money concerns. I also wanted to trade in my vehicle next year and spend about $40000. She is 100% against this since my vehicle is still like new after 7 years. I told her once this year that my cancer battle has moved up some things on my wish list, like the car, and she told me I was just using my cancer as an excuse to get a new vehicle. I just cannot understand how someone can have issues with $9 towels, but then spend $3000 on furniture we already had, but then not be at least open to some compromises on my new vehicle, and travel. Years back she wanted $5k in savings to sleep better. We did that. Then that wasnt enough and it became $10k. Then $20k. It never seems to matter how much it is. I have come into a large 6 figure sum of money, which we put away for retirement. We have so much going for us, and after my cancer battle, I want to live...now. Not break the bank, but I want some things in life. I have a 30% chance of not being here in years and that scares me. It just seems odd to me that we are very stable money wise, yet keep having such discussions where we are on completely different pages. There are obviously other issues, but this finance one keeps brewing for me and just bothers me a lot. | |||
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