Does being "in love" actually exist?

Long story short: I've finally found myself in a "relationship" after being divorced for 2 years (after nearly 12 years of marriage) and having a short lived rebound disaster shortly after. This guy is GREAT! We've been seeing each other about 4 months, and we get along wonderfully. We have had a few "tiffs," but nothing major that we haven't been able to work out. He is pretty perfect for me, as we have a lot of the same views on many aspects in life. I feel like we both have done a LOT of personal growth individually in recent years, and it seems that we would continue to support each other along that path in years to come. I can honestly say that I love him as a person. He is funny, charming, smart, great in bed (lol,) handsome, great with my kids, hardworking, driven, AND he adores me. I genuinely LIKE this man. And I love him. What is the problem, you may ask? WHERE is the passion? Sometimes I can feel it starting. But then is fizzles. I know I"m scared of getting hurt again. But I don't think this man would hurt me. Am I just so scared that I am keeping it away? I think that might be the case, but I'm not sure. Can passion develop over time? This is the only relationship I've had where I didn't fall head over heels FIRST. I can't help but think I'm FINALLY maturing enough in my thought processes to do things in the correct order in a relationship......meeting someone, getting to KNOW them (and I mean WELL, without the rose colored glasses) and loving them. But where does the "in love" happen in a healthy relationship? Maybe I just need reassurance that it CAN happen in this order! I adore this man, and would love to have that between us. I know he wants it too, because we have talked about it. I'm just strange, I swear! :rolleyes: LOL!

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