Ready to Give Up!!!!!!

I feel like I can't handle my marriage anymore. I know that if we didn't have kids we would be going our separate ways a long time ago. I feel guilty feeling like this because my husband's parents neglected him when he was little and he has very strong abandonment issues. Here is the situation. We have been married for 10 years. I went to school to get my degrees and now he is in school. We live in a very small apartment (for 9 years) and I have countless times asked that we live in a larger place, but it isn't financially feasible, and the location is convenient for my husband and his work. I work 30 minutes away, and have to take the kids to school/childcare in the morning. My husband will make large purchases randomly and not tell me about it (2k camera (2 of them), 170 a month cell phone, 300 phone, etc) I get very frustrated because I want to move and he knows this, but he doesn't seem to care. He says he has to finish his MBA, do h is homework, work on photos (he's a photographer too). And anytime I try to have a conversation it gets turned around, or he's too busy. I just spent 10 days away with the kids on vacation (with friends) without him hoping that my feelings for him would change-that I would miss him. But I didn't miss him. And when I came back home I got depressed again. Frustrated that we are still struggling. There are no groceries in the house and I haven't eaten since yesterday because we don't have money in the account because of all his purchases and bills. My kids are fed and that's it. So I am super cranky! Our sex life sucks (not in a good way). And I feel like all I do is complain, complain, complain. I am honestly not happy at all. I don't think he is either. We love our kids so much, and I think they are the reason we are together. He never tells me he thinks I am pretty, or gives me any compliments. I definitely feel taken for granted. I work so hard at trying to keep the house clean, cooking, going to work, looking my best, but it never seems good enough. Most of my issues come from where we live-it's small, LOUD, falling apart, and with both of us working we should be able to afford a bigger place, but he keeps spending money. I'm so stressed out, tired, hungry, and feel like I can't do this anymore. I tried talking about my feelings, but it just makes me so much more upset.

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