Anyone else out there have wives that get all passive aggressive and make snide comments about your hobbies? Im just going to talk about one of them..
Heres the story...I have been a car guy all my life...and also being a car guy has had a very important role in my career..I am now a business owner and about half of my business is geared towards automotive aftermarket...
I have a car that I have been slowly building for several years...and ultimately is going to be the one car to truly showcase my talents and its also good advertising for my business.
I have been putting a bit more effort into this thing in the last couple years and my wife seems to have a huge problem with it.
Now before anyone assumes that I just disappear into the garage and ignore my family for hours...that's not the case..as is I get maybe 2-3 hours per week on this thing...maybe 5-6 tops if I can get out there and I am not waiting on parts.
Its not a financial strain, I make decent money, and for another thing its a tax write off.
Even all of this being true, probably 9 times out of 10 she comes out into the garage after just a few minutes and starts nagging.. stepson sometimes acts like he is 'taddling' on me and says 'hes working on his car again' as if its some kind of bad thing I am doing. C'mon, I am a grown man, I don't need to be treated like I am some disobedient child! I work a solid 50 hour week, so I do enjoy having at least some time on the weekends to have some chill time, most of the time the Kids are out in the garage with my anyways. It always turns into 'some task' inside the house needs done, since I pretty much am the one who picks up the slack around the house she really leans on me to pretty much fill my entire weekend with mundane chores. Which always get done btw..
She is 100% not supportive of my interests...however the things she is interested in and enjoys to do its different, its ok for her to go the gym for 2-3 hours every weekend day...or obsess over some new food idea..and I am supportive of all these things.
This is really bugging me...I get that shes not into cars, and sees cars just as a utility. But the thing is, she married me knowing I AM a car guy, always have been and always will be. She doesn't make an effort to go to shows with me or be supportive when I have an event coming up, she seems to only care about this effects her.
Now, I will give her some grace for the moment, she is In school, but she will graduate here in another month or two and I hope that she backs off a bit, however I do think this is part of a deeper issue, the need to have control.
My attitude is just that I am not doing anything wrong, its not costing her time or stress other than what she has made up in her head, it irritates the hell out of me that she sees me doing something I enjoy as a problem..
I just think that some women forget that their partner is an individual, and has their own interests and likes...I sure as hell do not like everything she does, but I am not going to try to get in between her and them just over a need for control.
Heres the story...I have been a car guy all my life...and also being a car guy has had a very important role in my career..I am now a business owner and about half of my business is geared towards automotive aftermarket...
I have a car that I have been slowly building for several years...and ultimately is going to be the one car to truly showcase my talents and its also good advertising for my business.
I have been putting a bit more effort into this thing in the last couple years and my wife seems to have a huge problem with it.
Now before anyone assumes that I just disappear into the garage and ignore my family for hours...that's not the case..as is I get maybe 2-3 hours per week on this thing...maybe 5-6 tops if I can get out there and I am not waiting on parts.
Its not a financial strain, I make decent money, and for another thing its a tax write off.
Even all of this being true, probably 9 times out of 10 she comes out into the garage after just a few minutes and starts nagging.. stepson sometimes acts like he is 'taddling' on me and says 'hes working on his car again' as if its some kind of bad thing I am doing. C'mon, I am a grown man, I don't need to be treated like I am some disobedient child! I work a solid 50 hour week, so I do enjoy having at least some time on the weekends to have some chill time, most of the time the Kids are out in the garage with my anyways. It always turns into 'some task' inside the house needs done, since I pretty much am the one who picks up the slack around the house she really leans on me to pretty much fill my entire weekend with mundane chores. Which always get done btw..
She is 100% not supportive of my interests...however the things she is interested in and enjoys to do its different, its ok for her to go the gym for 2-3 hours every weekend day...or obsess over some new food idea..and I am supportive of all these things.
This is really bugging me...I get that shes not into cars, and sees cars just as a utility. But the thing is, she married me knowing I AM a car guy, always have been and always will be. She doesn't make an effort to go to shows with me or be supportive when I have an event coming up, she seems to only care about this effects her.
Now, I will give her some grace for the moment, she is In school, but she will graduate here in another month or two and I hope that she backs off a bit, however I do think this is part of a deeper issue, the need to have control.
My attitude is just that I am not doing anything wrong, its not costing her time or stress other than what she has made up in her head, it irritates the hell out of me that she sees me doing something I enjoy as a problem..
I just think that some women forget that their partner is an individual, and has their own interests and likes...I sure as hell do not like everything she does, but I am not going to try to get in between her and them just over a need for control.
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