Imagine your spouse coming here to vent about something you do that bugs her/him. Imagine when your spouse comes here to vent, but they don't offer a list of all the things you do right?
Imagine people only getting 5% of the story and suggesting that they leave you? I worry about the young couples that come here to vent and all these seeds of divorce are thrown at them. The only time I would even suggest divorce is if abuse, cheating, or addictions were involved. You know.. The real heavy duty stuff. Yet it seems around here it's mentioned for things like...a cold shoulder, only having sex 3x a month vs 3 times a week,household chores not split evenly, working long hrs etc. I understand it takes two ppl to make a marriage work, but sometimes all it takes is one spouse to start the change and then soon the partner will follow. I think hashing out how horrible the other spouse is, doesn't do much for the person seeking advice. It only adds fuel to their anger/hurt. Is it just me that sees this trend?
Imagine people only getting 5% of the story and suggesting that they leave you? I worry about the young couples that come here to vent and all these seeds of divorce are thrown at them. The only time I would even suggest divorce is if abuse, cheating, or addictions were involved. You know.. The real heavy duty stuff. Yet it seems around here it's mentioned for things like...a cold shoulder, only having sex 3x a month vs 3 times a week,household chores not split evenly, working long hrs etc. I understand it takes two ppl to make a marriage work, but sometimes all it takes is one spouse to start the change and then soon the partner will follow. I think hashing out how horrible the other spouse is, doesn't do much for the person seeking advice. It only adds fuel to their anger/hurt. Is it just me that sees this trend?
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