I texted my LD wife this morning "I want to phuck you"
She comes upstairs and said "I wish you would have told me earlier. Can it wait til later? I want to meet my dad for breakfast" (duh I have told her a thousand times I want to phuck every day but she is either passive aggressive or LDense LOL)
I said "Sure as long as you don't pretend you forgot as usual and its hours before our daughter gets home from school so we don't have to be quiet again because that sucks too. I intend on make a lot of noise and take my time enjoying every sexy feature about you."
She says "Ok I will see you later then" and she gives me a lousy kiss goodbye as usual. I was in the shower so I could not grab her and "arrange for" a better kiss like I do when I can grab her out of the shower and get a kiss like a red blooded male would want.
Background: I got comfortable with leaving her and living alone by googling "how to fall out of love" and so on following whatever path I could to get used to the idea of leaving her and separated all our finances and things and have resources in place to land on my feet such as another place to live and household goods in storage needed to set up house in hours.
All preparations have been made to leave if it comes to that starting with my emotions including walling up my heart and accepting that our marriage and my ultimatums could go either way for me and that was fine.
I told her I did not love her any more because of the total neglect of my needs and reasonable expectations. I told her if she didn't make good on the bait and switch immediately, I was prepared to divorce her. I also told her she has all the tools and resources available to her for me to fall back in love with her and I was still very attracted to her physically and platonically but I would not waste any more of my life hoping for affection and passionate sex from the person I want to have it with to the exclusion of happiness and fulfillment pursuing a better life without her. It was too painful, frustrating, saddening, unfulfilling, boring and not worth it and I would no longer live that way.
I told her it was her choice to fix it if she wanted because that is what I also want her to do but it was my choice to end the marriage unless it gets fixed immediately and we have a reasonably passionate enthusiastic sexual relationship starting immediately. I told her that I do not want to end the marriage, I want HER to fix her end of it and NO MORE drastic changes would be made on my side addressing her concerns until she makes improvements on hers since her efforts have been unnoticeable and mine have been remarkable and completely dead on what she asked for.
I showed her the lawyers number and the packet of do it yourself divorce papers and said I wasn't going to **** around for another 5 years hoping she would get a clue.
We have been phucking regular since and I got my first BJ in about a year a few weeks ago. I had to request it but it happened.
I no longer "self reject" either. I make my want for sex known or just initiate.
If I do get rejected, I explain that I took her rejection as a rejection, I dont like rejection and it will take a while to get over it and I explain how I intend and how long I intend to react to the rejection. And when I am thru healing from that rejection or she melts my emotions away by initiating, I will approach her but will be mindful of the predictable ongoing LD duck and dodge bull$hit games that have been played in the past and will not tolerate ongoing rejection, especially when it is consecutive rejections without a once a year explanation. Instead I will just pack, leave and file.
I told her I understand al too well that my blunt approach may very well result in resentment being built up in her for feeling like she has to do something she doesn't want to but I no longer sympathize with that since I have had years of resentment built up, she has a choice to nd our marriage or fix it and its either she adopt a positive attitude that her husband desires her and finds her sexy or she can self destruct with resentment like I was starting to and we can part ways eventually or right now. In the mean time I was done with accepting a pathetic LD life of lame excuses with her.
Its better but not great with moments of WOW. OK mostly but not WOW enough yet.
For the HD trashers calling us pervs that will inevitably junk up the post with a bunch of whining and what not, I fielded all the typical LD BS excuses and made all the changes she asked for and still got blown off.
I romance her, provide financial stability, now do most of all the chores she felt unsupported on and in short eliminated every bull$hit LD excuse that came up. There is no reason for her to be tired because I make sure of it. She has no worries financially. I am also in shape, wear the clothes that she likes me to wear, take care of myself, give her all the space and spending money she wants, take her shopping, buy her gifts, tell her she is beautiful, a great mom, smart, organized, accomplished admired etc. I am a good father.
Go ahead and dig around trying to find a way to blame me for her LD bull$hit but before you do ask yourself if I addressed every single explanation she offered me about why she is LD by eliminating it completely and she is still LD then isn't she just full of **** or lying?
I have money and free time so there is no excuse I am not willing to address and she has run out of excuses.
IF she is not attracted to me, NO PROBLEM then she can leave. Others are. Never been an issue.
She comes upstairs and said "I wish you would have told me earlier. Can it wait til later? I want to meet my dad for breakfast" (duh I have told her a thousand times I want to phuck every day but she is either passive aggressive or LDense LOL)
I said "Sure as long as you don't pretend you forgot as usual and its hours before our daughter gets home from school so we don't have to be quiet again because that sucks too. I intend on make a lot of noise and take my time enjoying every sexy feature about you."
She says "Ok I will see you later then" and she gives me a lousy kiss goodbye as usual. I was in the shower so I could not grab her and "arrange for" a better kiss like I do when I can grab her out of the shower and get a kiss like a red blooded male would want.
Background: I got comfortable with leaving her and living alone by googling "how to fall out of love" and so on following whatever path I could to get used to the idea of leaving her and separated all our finances and things and have resources in place to land on my feet such as another place to live and household goods in storage needed to set up house in hours.
All preparations have been made to leave if it comes to that starting with my emotions including walling up my heart and accepting that our marriage and my ultimatums could go either way for me and that was fine.
I told her I did not love her any more because of the total neglect of my needs and reasonable expectations. I told her if she didn't make good on the bait and switch immediately, I was prepared to divorce her. I also told her she has all the tools and resources available to her for me to fall back in love with her and I was still very attracted to her physically and platonically but I would not waste any more of my life hoping for affection and passionate sex from the person I want to have it with to the exclusion of happiness and fulfillment pursuing a better life without her. It was too painful, frustrating, saddening, unfulfilling, boring and not worth it and I would no longer live that way.
I told her it was her choice to fix it if she wanted because that is what I also want her to do but it was my choice to end the marriage unless it gets fixed immediately and we have a reasonably passionate enthusiastic sexual relationship starting immediately. I told her that I do not want to end the marriage, I want HER to fix her end of it and NO MORE drastic changes would be made on my side addressing her concerns until she makes improvements on hers since her efforts have been unnoticeable and mine have been remarkable and completely dead on what she asked for.
I showed her the lawyers number and the packet of do it yourself divorce papers and said I wasn't going to **** around for another 5 years hoping she would get a clue.
We have been phucking regular since and I got my first BJ in about a year a few weeks ago. I had to request it but it happened.
I no longer "self reject" either. I make my want for sex known or just initiate.
If I do get rejected, I explain that I took her rejection as a rejection, I dont like rejection and it will take a while to get over it and I explain how I intend and how long I intend to react to the rejection. And when I am thru healing from that rejection or she melts my emotions away by initiating, I will approach her but will be mindful of the predictable ongoing LD duck and dodge bull$hit games that have been played in the past and will not tolerate ongoing rejection, especially when it is consecutive rejections without a once a year explanation. Instead I will just pack, leave and file.
I told her I understand al too well that my blunt approach may very well result in resentment being built up in her for feeling like she has to do something she doesn't want to but I no longer sympathize with that since I have had years of resentment built up, she has a choice to nd our marriage or fix it and its either she adopt a positive attitude that her husband desires her and finds her sexy or she can self destruct with resentment like I was starting to and we can part ways eventually or right now. In the mean time I was done with accepting a pathetic LD life of lame excuses with her.
Its better but not great with moments of WOW. OK mostly but not WOW enough yet.
For the HD trashers calling us pervs that will inevitably junk up the post with a bunch of whining and what not, I fielded all the typical LD BS excuses and made all the changes she asked for and still got blown off.
I romance her, provide financial stability, now do most of all the chores she felt unsupported on and in short eliminated every bull$hit LD excuse that came up. There is no reason for her to be tired because I make sure of it. She has no worries financially. I am also in shape, wear the clothes that she likes me to wear, take care of myself, give her all the space and spending money she wants, take her shopping, buy her gifts, tell her she is beautiful, a great mom, smart, organized, accomplished admired etc. I am a good father.
Go ahead and dig around trying to find a way to blame me for her LD bull$hit but before you do ask yourself if I addressed every single explanation she offered me about why she is LD by eliminating it completely and she is still LD then isn't she just full of **** or lying?
I have money and free time so there is no excuse I am not willing to address and she has run out of excuses.
IF she is not attracted to me, NO PROBLEM then she can leave. Others are. Never been an issue.
Put the internet to work for you.
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