I know silence is a marriage killer but after a fight/argument over petty things or big things it is not always constructive to keep talking. If this happens on a Sat and the rest of the day you are free (no kids, chores, family committments) what does each spouse do? If the silence lasts the next day sunday as well what do you do. I mean there is still talk about necessities like asking each other when they will go to the gym and what they want to eat etc but there is still hostility in the sense that each other feels like the victim and the other has hurt their feelings.
I don't know if it is okay that my husband invited his friend over to watch a fight on TV. We live in a small house.I don't have friends as many as him. His town, his fam is here etc. I just feel very lonely sometimes. All I do is go to internet cafes to look for work. I told him I would like it if he is home around 8:30 every night after he goes to the gym and on the weekends I like that he spends time with me most of the time and not his friends without me. We do visit his family almost every other weekend as we are both very family oriented and I do participate in hanging out with his friends when they invite us to do things. So he does get to see them periodically. But i feel most of the time as a married couple we should be doing things together alone as there is so much to do (chores, family commitments, gym etc.) so the weekend goes by fast. Anyways, as my family isnt here, I often find myself feeling lonely after fights and feel it unfair that he goes off to hang out with a friend when we are not talking...What do you think? What do you do when you are not talking to each other - hang out with friends or do stuff alone like read, tv, gym, chores on a Sat/Sun? If we are not in a fight everything is good and we are both happy but once we fight, and don't talk for a while, he will go off and do something fun with a friend (is this normal to do?) even if you are married and in your early 30s.
I don't know if it is okay that my husband invited his friend over to watch a fight on TV. We live in a small house.I don't have friends as many as him. His town, his fam is here etc. I just feel very lonely sometimes. All I do is go to internet cafes to look for work. I told him I would like it if he is home around 8:30 every night after he goes to the gym and on the weekends I like that he spends time with me most of the time and not his friends without me. We do visit his family almost every other weekend as we are both very family oriented and I do participate in hanging out with his friends when they invite us to do things. So he does get to see them periodically. But i feel most of the time as a married couple we should be doing things together alone as there is so much to do (chores, family commitments, gym etc.) so the weekend goes by fast. Anyways, as my family isnt here, I often find myself feeling lonely after fights and feel it unfair that he goes off to hang out with a friend when we are not talking...What do you think? What do you do when you are not talking to each other - hang out with friends or do stuff alone like read, tv, gym, chores on a Sat/Sun? If we are not in a fight everything is good and we are both happy but once we fight, and don't talk for a while, he will go off and do something fun with a friend (is this normal to do?) even if you are married and in your early 30s.
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