I don't know if my husband lack of sex drive is because of medical issues or bored with me. We have been together over 20 years, have two children. We are close to 50 years old. My husband never had a high sex drive but was normal and started to dwindle down the road many years ago. My husband is hard working, high strung, nervous. He complains he's tired, headache, neck pain, stressed almost daily. My husband has type 1 diabetes.
When it comes to sex I feel neglected, hurt and unwanted. It really makes me depressed. I have told him this for years and he tells me it's because of stress. He takes Viagra because of ED but complains about terrible heartburn. We have sex maybe 1-2 times a month only because I bring it up. He is never in the mood, I try to get him in the mood we will watch porno together and that might get him going a little but not enough. It's like he has to work hard to get excited. He goes limp if the room gets cold, if it's to hot, if he feels a pinch in his neck he'll lose it. He will lose it if he goes for awhile and gets tired. It's like he has no feelings down there.
He doesn't like to talk about it. All I hear is I work a lot and tired
Sex is like a chore with him and he probably feels the same way. I have tried vitamins and herbs to try to get him interested.
If he's testosterone is low ( I had it checked 9 years ago we were trying for a baby and he's drive was on the low side back then) it came back in the low middle range. The doctor told him to try the testosterone patch and see if it would help with his drive but it made him very aggressive and he stopped it. He is hot tempered by nature so we didn't need to add more. So I don't know if getting it checked will help if he doesn't want to use anything not natural.
I lost over 50 lbs almost at goal weight and he's still not interested.
I feel worse now then before about the sex. I was thinking now I lost weight he will be more interested.
I don't know how to make me not feel this way. I try to focus on something else but a man is supposed to be interested in sex.
I told him let's make a sex night weekly. Two weeks ago he took his Viagra we had sex but he was having a hard time getting off and finally he did then he woke up with severe heartburn and was up entire night. Then the following week we tried again and he said he got to hot and lost his erection - this week is not going to happen he's stressed about work ! I want to cry.
Any other ladies with the same type of problems?
When it comes to sex I feel neglected, hurt and unwanted. It really makes me depressed. I have told him this for years and he tells me it's because of stress. He takes Viagra because of ED but complains about terrible heartburn. We have sex maybe 1-2 times a month only because I bring it up. He is never in the mood, I try to get him in the mood we will watch porno together and that might get him going a little but not enough. It's like he has to work hard to get excited. He goes limp if the room gets cold, if it's to hot, if he feels a pinch in his neck he'll lose it. He will lose it if he goes for awhile and gets tired. It's like he has no feelings down there.
He doesn't like to talk about it. All I hear is I work a lot and tired
Sex is like a chore with him and he probably feels the same way. I have tried vitamins and herbs to try to get him interested.
If he's testosterone is low ( I had it checked 9 years ago we were trying for a baby and he's drive was on the low side back then) it came back in the low middle range. The doctor told him to try the testosterone patch and see if it would help with his drive but it made him very aggressive and he stopped it. He is hot tempered by nature so we didn't need to add more. So I don't know if getting it checked will help if he doesn't want to use anything not natural.
I lost over 50 lbs almost at goal weight and he's still not interested.
I feel worse now then before about the sex. I was thinking now I lost weight he will be more interested.
I don't know how to make me not feel this way. I try to focus on something else but a man is supposed to be interested in sex.
I told him let's make a sex night weekly. Two weeks ago he took his Viagra we had sex but he was having a hard time getting off and finally he did then he woke up with severe heartburn and was up entire night. Then the following week we tried again and he said he got to hot and lost his erection - this week is not going to happen he's stressed about work ! I want to cry.
Any other ladies with the same type of problems?
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