My husband and I are lucky to have similar working hours so we get to spend a lot of time together and on top of that, we take a couple of vacations a year. We have been under a lot of stress lately with our jobs, family issues, and the normal holiday stress, but we have managed to do things just the two of us and with our closest friends. As much as I have enjoyed all the time we have spent together, while he has had a few outings with his friends the past couple of months, I only managed to do that once and that was just dinner with friends and coming home. I am always tied down to my job, the aforementioned family problems, taking care of my home.
I have never spent the night away from my husband and technically neither has he, but there are times he goes to poker night with his friends and does not come home until 5-6 in the morning. Because we have no children, I do not mind this and the people he plays poker with are family members and close friends.
For a while now, my older cousin and I have been wanting to do just a girls night-in just the two of us as we barely get to spend time alone and both really could use unwinding. All we're going to do is have a few glasses of wine, talk, relax, watch reruns of our favorite shows into early morning like old times. She and her husband said I am free to sleep in the guest room if I don't want to drive home so late, especially after drinking a little.
My husband flipped out when I told him and even at first said he "forbids it." He is actually also close with my cousin, especially her husband, so it is not like he disapproves of them. I explained that I would just be hanging there at night and leaving in the morning, but he said I was being selfish. He said he is fine with me being there, but wants me to come home no matter how late it is. I know I am married, but I am not abandoning my responsibilities nor is this a habit. However he has been taught that not sleeping together equates a broken marriage. When I brought up that there have been nights where I have slept alone (and this does not bother me as they are infrequent) because he has come home really late or when we take our vacation days he stays up later than I do, he said that's not the same as me staying over my cousin's.
I was supposed to do a Vegas girls weekend once (with my married friends) and he was also opposed to it at first. As soon as the plans fell through, though, he claimed he was only joking and would not have cared if we had gone.
Does he have a right to explode over this matter? Is it really that big of a deal to crash at my cousin's house just this once?
Again I know I am not a teenager anymore or a single 20 something, but I really do not see what the big deal is.
I have never spent the night away from my husband and technically neither has he, but there are times he goes to poker night with his friends and does not come home until 5-6 in the morning. Because we have no children, I do not mind this and the people he plays poker with are family members and close friends.
For a while now, my older cousin and I have been wanting to do just a girls night-in just the two of us as we barely get to spend time alone and both really could use unwinding. All we're going to do is have a few glasses of wine, talk, relax, watch reruns of our favorite shows into early morning like old times. She and her husband said I am free to sleep in the guest room if I don't want to drive home so late, especially after drinking a little.
My husband flipped out when I told him and even at first said he "forbids it." He is actually also close with my cousin, especially her husband, so it is not like he disapproves of them. I explained that I would just be hanging there at night and leaving in the morning, but he said I was being selfish. He said he is fine with me being there, but wants me to come home no matter how late it is. I know I am married, but I am not abandoning my responsibilities nor is this a habit. However he has been taught that not sleeping together equates a broken marriage. When I brought up that there have been nights where I have slept alone (and this does not bother me as they are infrequent) because he has come home really late or when we take our vacation days he stays up later than I do, he said that's not the same as me staying over my cousin's.
I was supposed to do a Vegas girls weekend once (with my married friends) and he was also opposed to it at first. As soon as the plans fell through, though, he claimed he was only joking and would not have cared if we had gone.
Does he have a right to explode over this matter? Is it really that big of a deal to crash at my cousin's house just this once?
Again I know I am not a teenager anymore or a single 20 something, but I really do not see what the big deal is.
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