Alright, so my wife and I haven't been married for too long, about half a year or so. Anyway, we're pretty open about things, and her previous relationship had ended disastrously when someone stole her boyfriend away from her. It was under the guise that this chick's husband was beating up on her, treating her like crap, so my wife and her then boyfriend would give her shelter or an ear from time to time. Long story short, this chick ran off with my wife's ex and they lived happily ever after.
Out of consideration for my wife, especially after we got engaged, I made it a point to "trim the fat" on my friends. There are those childhood friends that never amounted to anything, cheaters, druggies, and when it comes to the girls, I have could've beens, should've beens, and want to have beens. I pretty much cut them all out, out of respect, loyalty, and to never put her in a similar situation. If a friend of mine of the opposite sex were to need help in a similar fashion as before, it'd be a completely platonic friend. I'm very secure in myself, and I've had otherwise attractive friends for 10 years, in which the line has never been crossed, and we treat one another like siblings. I don't get drunk and make mistakes, nor do I put myself in those situations where I would be vulnerable to make one. I don't cheat, anger-**** anyone when I'm mad at my wife, nor play around with her trust, suspicions, or insecurities.
My wife on the other hand, has a group of friends that makes me extremely uncomfortable. She's slipped up once, with a friend, so the trust isn't really there. For the most part, her guy friends are all exes, if they're not beta boys that profess their love to her every time they drink. My wife is the type to get black out drunk when she drinks, so being a very attractive woman, the chance of something bad to happen goes way up. Her girlfriends aren't model citizens, usually barflys that ignore that she is married, and try to get her to come out so she can help bait guys for them.
Anyway, the argument we had recently was that I had spent some time away, and came back home recently. She lost her phone, and when she found it, she opened to read a text. Close to midnight, she had texted some friend of hers that she was not a toy and bull****. I called her out on it, asking for the context of that message, and she said that he was a married ex of hers that would still hit on her. Joking about being ready to take a shower, and inviting her in. Asking for a massage, and other **** that would piss his wife off if she knew. I told her that I was tired of the fact that she would even entertain that ****, and why she couldn't just make new, decent friends, rather than putting me in the ultra-difficult position of having to accept the guys she used to **** as being her friends. This isn't like some stat where it's like 25% or 40%, but she's literally ****ed ALL of her friends.
She turns it around on me by saying that I'm being possessive and don't want her to have any friends, and that's not the point. It's not that ****ing hard, trim the fat. I did it. The girlfriends I can deal with, but the guys that are all exes and beta wannabes are annoying as ****, and I'm halfway tempted to call them out on their ****.
The other night, I went out on a dinner with a client for work that went to a nearby college I knew from way back when. This chick had a crush on me, and was known to offer herself to seal the deal for a contract. I told my wife about her the night before, I ended up going out with the girl, and sure enough, she tried to kiss me. Then she started sending me texts and nudes, in which I was 100% open with my wife about until I blocked her number. I didn't just recently reveal the fact, I told my wife about it as it was happening.
Equality,respect, and transparency. We said our ****ing vows, but that doesn't mean one should get to bend the rules.
Out of consideration for my wife, especially after we got engaged, I made it a point to "trim the fat" on my friends. There are those childhood friends that never amounted to anything, cheaters, druggies, and when it comes to the girls, I have could've beens, should've beens, and want to have beens. I pretty much cut them all out, out of respect, loyalty, and to never put her in a similar situation. If a friend of mine of the opposite sex were to need help in a similar fashion as before, it'd be a completely platonic friend. I'm very secure in myself, and I've had otherwise attractive friends for 10 years, in which the line has never been crossed, and we treat one another like siblings. I don't get drunk and make mistakes, nor do I put myself in those situations where I would be vulnerable to make one. I don't cheat, anger-**** anyone when I'm mad at my wife, nor play around with her trust, suspicions, or insecurities.
My wife on the other hand, has a group of friends that makes me extremely uncomfortable. She's slipped up once, with a friend, so the trust isn't really there. For the most part, her guy friends are all exes, if they're not beta boys that profess their love to her every time they drink. My wife is the type to get black out drunk when she drinks, so being a very attractive woman, the chance of something bad to happen goes way up. Her girlfriends aren't model citizens, usually barflys that ignore that she is married, and try to get her to come out so she can help bait guys for them.
Anyway, the argument we had recently was that I had spent some time away, and came back home recently. She lost her phone, and when she found it, she opened to read a text. Close to midnight, she had texted some friend of hers that she was not a toy and bull****. I called her out on it, asking for the context of that message, and she said that he was a married ex of hers that would still hit on her. Joking about being ready to take a shower, and inviting her in. Asking for a massage, and other **** that would piss his wife off if she knew. I told her that I was tired of the fact that she would even entertain that ****, and why she couldn't just make new, decent friends, rather than putting me in the ultra-difficult position of having to accept the guys she used to **** as being her friends. This isn't like some stat where it's like 25% or 40%, but she's literally ****ed ALL of her friends.
She turns it around on me by saying that I'm being possessive and don't want her to have any friends, and that's not the point. It's not that ****ing hard, trim the fat. I did it. The girlfriends I can deal with, but the guys that are all exes and beta wannabes are annoying as ****, and I'm halfway tempted to call them out on their ****.
The other night, I went out on a dinner with a client for work that went to a nearby college I knew from way back when. This chick had a crush on me, and was known to offer herself to seal the deal for a contract. I told my wife about her the night before, I ended up going out with the girl, and sure enough, she tried to kiss me. Then she started sending me texts and nudes, in which I was 100% open with my wife about until I blocked her number. I didn't just recently reveal the fact, I told my wife about it as it was happening.
Equality,respect, and transparency. We said our ****ing vows, but that doesn't mean one should get to bend the rules.
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