I have posted before on this but seems I might need to dig into this before it becomes a big issue for my new flame. I am about 10mo out of an LTR of 12yrs. Been with my new flame for 2mo or so.
I have some concerns that either the sensations, her body, or my brain is not getting things done. I done have much problem rising to the challenge but ejaculation is a bit of an issue right now.
We have discussed that I do drink in the evenings a bit and apparently somewhat of an issue. However, to be honest, that is not the whole issue and I know this. She is very smooth inside and I seem to need a little "texture". We did have some quick action last Sunday standing up and I had no problem at all! However, I am just not consistent. I am now building up issues in my head that are probably making it worse.
I know I can discuss the issues with her but how do you say "you feel too smooth"??? Not like she can do anything about it! Her bod is very tuned up! Rock hard abs, legs so smooth and toned that they feel like plastic. Her boobs are smaller and I do like boobs!! Hers are firm and very nice but.... If I nad to select someone purely for sex, I would usually go for something with softer features, softer skin, bigger boobs, etc. Hard to explain but I am sure everyone knows how chem works looking at certain people and saying "yep, I would have some fun there".
We are such a great match in every other way and I am not going to bale just because of this one issue but it is something I need to address.
So... rather than beating this drinking thing up, I would like to learn what I CAN do to improve the situation? I know "clearing my head" will come up but that is much easier said than done.
All I have to lean on is sex with my ex, in which I was usually trying to hold back from going to quick. That does NOT mean I need to get back with my ex or desire that. I think this is purely a sensation thing. I want to fix this with my new flame. She is willing to do anything I desire and I would be hard pressed to find anything actually wrong with her! So confusing for me right now.
I would almost say my male part seems numb and just not feeling like it should. I don't want the sexual part of this relationship to drive things. Everything else works so well!
I do know that sometimes I get really close and then so goes and changes her movements and it throws me. I hate to start acting selfish but at a loss to figure this all out.
I have some concerns that either the sensations, her body, or my brain is not getting things done. I done have much problem rising to the challenge but ejaculation is a bit of an issue right now.
We have discussed that I do drink in the evenings a bit and apparently somewhat of an issue. However, to be honest, that is not the whole issue and I know this. She is very smooth inside and I seem to need a little "texture". We did have some quick action last Sunday standing up and I had no problem at all! However, I am just not consistent. I am now building up issues in my head that are probably making it worse.
I know I can discuss the issues with her but how do you say "you feel too smooth"??? Not like she can do anything about it! Her bod is very tuned up! Rock hard abs, legs so smooth and toned that they feel like plastic. Her boobs are smaller and I do like boobs!! Hers are firm and very nice but.... If I nad to select someone purely for sex, I would usually go for something with softer features, softer skin, bigger boobs, etc. Hard to explain but I am sure everyone knows how chem works looking at certain people and saying "yep, I would have some fun there".
We are such a great match in every other way and I am not going to bale just because of this one issue but it is something I need to address.
So... rather than beating this drinking thing up, I would like to learn what I CAN do to improve the situation? I know "clearing my head" will come up but that is much easier said than done.
All I have to lean on is sex with my ex, in which I was usually trying to hold back from going to quick. That does NOT mean I need to get back with my ex or desire that. I think this is purely a sensation thing. I want to fix this with my new flame. She is willing to do anything I desire and I would be hard pressed to find anything actually wrong with her! So confusing for me right now.
I would almost say my male part seems numb and just not feeling like it should. I don't want the sexual part of this relationship to drive things. Everything else works so well!
I do know that sometimes I get really close and then so goes and changes her movements and it throws me. I hate to start acting selfish but at a loss to figure this all out.
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