On the forth of july my husband did something with our almost 9 month old daughter.
I did not witness it. I had our daughter in our pack n play and I went to the bathroom. He took her out of the pack n play and went outside. All of a sudden i heard a loud pop pop pop. By the sounds of it....it was not the kind that flew up in the air. It sounded like the little rectangle kind wrapped in the red paper. (the kind that u light and throw) He did this while holding our daughter.
After I got done in the bathroom I went outside and calmly but firmly asked him if he could give me the baby. He asked why. I just simply said...can u you please just give me the baby. He gave me a warning and said that "if i give her to you...there will be consequences." So, he gave the baby to me and I went inside. Then he came inside and we started fighting. I yelled at him telling him that you donet light off exploding fireworks while holding a baby. He yelled back at me telling me that he was careful and did it in a safe way and that he would not let anything bad happen to her. I yelled back at him telling him that it doesnt matter. You dont light explosive fireworks off while holding a baby. Then he yelled at me telling me that I ruined his holiday. He yelled at me telling me that I should have asked how he lit the firework off.
Our whole fight ended up bring up a bunch of other crap. I made him feel like i dont trust him with our daughter. My husband also thinks that I'm stupid and he is so much better than me. He also called me bat **** crazy. I said a childish thing and told him that I was going to tell both of our daughter's grandmothers. (because my parents are from the baby boomer era and I believe they are smarter than us from generation x.) He has always had this pompous attitude towards me whenever we fight. I've posted the same story on a baby forum and all the moms said that I was NOT wrong for over reacting.
Any dads out there who feel I was over reacting....please share your thoughts and let me know.
Now, mind you...since having our daughter and I work part time in retail and he works full time m-f. So, I am home with our daughter most of the time. And when I work nights for 4 hours he takes over daddy duty. Since having our daughter....I have become a controlling mother and I end up micro managing my husband as far baby routine goes. My husband is the kind of person who needs everything written down for him. So, I write down her feeding and nap times for him. Then when I come from work I have him write down for me what time she was fed, when she napped, what time she was changed, and whether it was a pee or poop. I have him do this because I have app that helps me keep track of that stuff so that I can give the pediatrician accurate information pertaining to those things. I also like using the app because it helps me remember. Over this weekend he decided to quit telling me when the baby was fed, changed, or nap. It really pisses me off now. It makes my data inaccurate f or the day.
4th of july he did not speak to me for the rest of the night. Then on saturday I went to work and I came home and I wanted to talk about the holiday. Because he was still giving me the silent treatment. We ended up fighting some more and I finally yelled and apologized to him for friday. I again threaten him to divorce me or something. I yelled at him telling him that I am trying to ease up and not be so controlling. That I am trying to not be so negative and show him some affection. I begged him to not leave the house because he did not want to be around a psycho. He ended up staying home with me but still not talking to me. I cried the whole night. I felt like ****.
I still feel like **** because everything is always my fault and I'm always being the bigger person by apologizing even if i feel he was wrong. He never does anything like that for me. Im always yelling at him that he doesnt take my emotions or feelings into consideration. Everything is always about him.
Anyways....it's late for me. I just wanted to write about the fireworks incident and get some input from any first time dads out there.
I did not witness it. I had our daughter in our pack n play and I went to the bathroom. He took her out of the pack n play and went outside. All of a sudden i heard a loud pop pop pop. By the sounds of it....it was not the kind that flew up in the air. It sounded like the little rectangle kind wrapped in the red paper. (the kind that u light and throw) He did this while holding our daughter.
After I got done in the bathroom I went outside and calmly but firmly asked him if he could give me the baby. He asked why. I just simply said...can u you please just give me the baby. He gave me a warning and said that "if i give her to you...there will be consequences." So, he gave the baby to me and I went inside. Then he came inside and we started fighting. I yelled at him telling him that you donet light off exploding fireworks while holding a baby. He yelled back at me telling me that he was careful and did it in a safe way and that he would not let anything bad happen to her. I yelled back at him telling him that it doesnt matter. You dont light explosive fireworks off while holding a baby. Then he yelled at me telling me that I ruined his holiday. He yelled at me telling me that I should have asked how he lit the firework off.
Our whole fight ended up bring up a bunch of other crap. I made him feel like i dont trust him with our daughter. My husband also thinks that I'm stupid and he is so much better than me. He also called me bat **** crazy. I said a childish thing and told him that I was going to tell both of our daughter's grandmothers. (because my parents are from the baby boomer era and I believe they are smarter than us from generation x.) He has always had this pompous attitude towards me whenever we fight. I've posted the same story on a baby forum and all the moms said that I was NOT wrong for over reacting.
Any dads out there who feel I was over reacting....please share your thoughts and let me know.
Now, mind you...since having our daughter and I work part time in retail and he works full time m-f. So, I am home with our daughter most of the time. And when I work nights for 4 hours he takes over daddy duty. Since having our daughter....I have become a controlling mother and I end up micro managing my husband as far baby routine goes. My husband is the kind of person who needs everything written down for him. So, I write down her feeding and nap times for him. Then when I come from work I have him write down for me what time she was fed, when she napped, what time she was changed, and whether it was a pee or poop. I have him do this because I have app that helps me keep track of that stuff so that I can give the pediatrician accurate information pertaining to those things. I also like using the app because it helps me remember. Over this weekend he decided to quit telling me when the baby was fed, changed, or nap. It really pisses me off now. It makes my data inaccurate f or the day.
4th of july he did not speak to me for the rest of the night. Then on saturday I went to work and I came home and I wanted to talk about the holiday. Because he was still giving me the silent treatment. We ended up fighting some more and I finally yelled and apologized to him for friday. I again threaten him to divorce me or something. I yelled at him telling him that I am trying to ease up and not be so controlling. That I am trying to not be so negative and show him some affection. I begged him to not leave the house because he did not want to be around a psycho. He ended up staying home with me but still not talking to me. I cried the whole night. I felt like ****.
I still feel like **** because everything is always my fault and I'm always being the bigger person by apologizing even if i feel he was wrong. He never does anything like that for me. Im always yelling at him that he doesnt take my emotions or feelings into consideration. Everything is always about him.
Anyways....it's late for me. I just wanted to write about the fireworks incident and get some input from any first time dads out there.
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