New guy here. Found this forum after doing a search online for other folks comments on spouses not wanting sex. A little background info on us.
I the hubby am 42, in great shape, I run and bike. She is 38 and was in the fitness industry. Although she is having a hard time losing the baby weight I still find her intensely attractive and want to be with her in the same manner as before. Our son is going on 24 months. Before the baby we had a great sex life. 2 or 3 times a week and it was passionate, intense and we enjoyed exploring each others and doing everything to each other and I mean everything. Don't want to get too explicit.
After baby was born I naturally gave her time to heal up ( 2 months ) and took it easy whenever we did do something. That's when I noticed that she wasn't initiating anything anymore. Shes lost her affection. It's gotten worse and we've been arguing and fighting a lot about things that we should be able to just agree on and do or just talk it out.
I work a shift that is mid morning to late evening. Before I leave to work I help her with the baby / toddler and when I get home I bathe him and put him to sleep. We don;t have any family members that can watch the baby overnight or anything so we can get away. We have not had time for us or a date night since the baby was born. I believe I am doing the right thing in working and providing for my family. Things are tough in this economy. She is a SAHM so we are just making ends meet on my income. I often leave home projects for night time that I can do in the garage while baby is asleep so I can help her.
I can count the number of times we have been together physically on both my hands since baby was born. Although i can understand that being a full time mom is hard work. I am getting tired of the excuses ( im tired, headache, stomach ache, don;t feel like it, time of month, haven't shaved, and blah blah blah ). I haven't gotten any affection and she would rather spend 3 hours on her Ipad at night than be with me. When we do something its her just being there and telling me to hurry up. I can't do that anymore. What's a guy to do?
I the hubby am 42, in great shape, I run and bike. She is 38 and was in the fitness industry. Although she is having a hard time losing the baby weight I still find her intensely attractive and want to be with her in the same manner as before. Our son is going on 24 months. Before the baby we had a great sex life. 2 or 3 times a week and it was passionate, intense and we enjoyed exploring each others and doing everything to each other and I mean everything. Don't want to get too explicit.
After baby was born I naturally gave her time to heal up ( 2 months ) and took it easy whenever we did do something. That's when I noticed that she wasn't initiating anything anymore. Shes lost her affection. It's gotten worse and we've been arguing and fighting a lot about things that we should be able to just agree on and do or just talk it out.
I work a shift that is mid morning to late evening. Before I leave to work I help her with the baby / toddler and when I get home I bathe him and put him to sleep. We don;t have any family members that can watch the baby overnight or anything so we can get away. We have not had time for us or a date night since the baby was born. I believe I am doing the right thing in working and providing for my family. Things are tough in this economy. She is a SAHM so we are just making ends meet on my income. I often leave home projects for night time that I can do in the garage while baby is asleep so I can help her.
I can count the number of times we have been together physically on both my hands since baby was born. Although i can understand that being a full time mom is hard work. I am getting tired of the excuses ( im tired, headache, stomach ache, don;t feel like it, time of month, haven't shaved, and blah blah blah ). I haven't gotten any affection and she would rather spend 3 hours on her Ipad at night than be with me. When we do something its her just being there and telling me to hurry up. I can't do that anymore. What's a guy to do?
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