So, I am 26 years old. I am a cell phone repair technician. Let's start by saying i work....a lot! around 65 hours a week. This enables me to put food on the table and care for my wife and our 6 year old son. I usually get off work and help my wife run errands. Then we return home and i make a meal for my family and spend what little time i have left playing with my son. I also help with household chores such as vacuuming, dishes (frequently), laundry and whatever else needs done around the house. I spend the evenings (many times when i should be sleeping) talking to my wife and watching tv series or movies with her. I give her massages when her muscles are sore and do nice things like masks and massages. I am a bit of a pervert, but i do my best not to masturbate because it bothers her, and i also don't watch porn because of the same reason, also i tend to be strong willed. I have taken care of my wife for 10 years now (since we started dating) and my so n as well. my wife has probably worked a total of 60 hours at a job since we met. When we met i was a bit of a punk, dressing in black and piercings and such, this created quite the disturbance in our relationship because of her family being overly religious and being concerned for the way people perceive you, so i dropped it all, the music, piercings, clothes, tattoos all of it! My point in all of this is that i am not perfect, but I'm giving everything I know how to be the husband that any woman would be proud to have.
The problem is that she doesn't want sex, and she will NEVER initiate sex. As a matter of fact when I initiate sex she doesn't even seem that into it. I should make a note here that whenever we DO have sex, i make sure she gets "satisfied" several times thinking that it would be preferred, however she has actually told me that she might be MORE inclined to have sex if she wasn't "satisfied" so many times during our "relations". We have sex on average about twice a month and i cant take it anymore! I want to salvage our marriage, which is otherwise a pretty good one. I feel like I am more than keeping my vows and she doesn't do the same.
It is worth noting that i have gained about 50 Lbs. from the stress of every day life, but i keep up everything i can to make myself attractive to her. keep a beard (she likes it, i hate it) but make sure its nicely trimmed and shave a pluck and clean pores and everything i can.
What do you guys think? Am I expecting too much, am i being unreasonable? Is twice a month the norm for married couples? I am literally in tears over this feeling of insignificance. I am to the point to where I'm going to just start watching porn and get a fleshlight to cope, but that won't end well when she finds out.
The problem is that she doesn't want sex, and she will NEVER initiate sex. As a matter of fact when I initiate sex she doesn't even seem that into it. I should make a note here that whenever we DO have sex, i make sure she gets "satisfied" several times thinking that it would be preferred, however she has actually told me that she might be MORE inclined to have sex if she wasn't "satisfied" so many times during our "relations". We have sex on average about twice a month and i cant take it anymore! I want to salvage our marriage, which is otherwise a pretty good one. I feel like I am more than keeping my vows and she doesn't do the same.
It is worth noting that i have gained about 50 Lbs. from the stress of every day life, but i keep up everything i can to make myself attractive to her. keep a beard (she likes it, i hate it) but make sure its nicely trimmed and shave a pluck and clean pores and everything i can.
What do you guys think? Am I expecting too much, am i being unreasonable? Is twice a month the norm for married couples? I am literally in tears over this feeling of insignificance. I am to the point to where I'm going to just start watching porn and get a fleshlight to cope, but that won't end well when she finds out.
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