Alright... so I am 19-yo male, 1st year at Uni.
Never been in a relationship, never kissed a girl, etc. A total virgin. The reasons for that and what I've undertaken in the past year to change that I think are irrelevant to the topic and will just bore you.
I met a girl during Freshers week, and I THINK I liked her. Yet, we didn't exchange anything. Two weeks ago she added me on Facebook and I THINK gave me hints about that she likes me. So I wanted to see if that's the case and asked her to go to have lunch together. We went out, was alright,she gave me a light hug when we parted.
Then a few days later SHE asked me out. I think the date (I guess?) went well and I do think she likes me.
BUT.
I don't feel emotionally the way I think I should feel if I liked her. I get this strange thought that I don't like her, but in the same time I do.
When I like a girl, I definitely get a nice feeling in my stomach and feel excited about her.
In this case, I don't feel that, it makes me feel bad and worry a lot. I am trying to identify the reason for that.
We are yet to go on another one-two dates/hangouts? and I will determine how I really feel then I guess. If I don't feel any emotional bond I will call it off. (I have never, ever considered the opportunity of me rejecting a girl I've been on a date with)
Never been in a relationship, never kissed a girl, etc. A total virgin. The reasons for that and what I've undertaken in the past year to change that I think are irrelevant to the topic and will just bore you.
I met a girl during Freshers week, and I THINK I liked her. Yet, we didn't exchange anything. Two weeks ago she added me on Facebook and I THINK gave me hints about that she likes me. So I wanted to see if that's the case and asked her to go to have lunch together. We went out, was alright,she gave me a light hug when we parted.
Then a few days later SHE asked me out. I think the date (I guess?) went well and I do think she likes me.
BUT.
I don't feel emotionally the way I think I should feel if I liked her. I get this strange thought that I don't like her, but in the same time I do.
When I like a girl, I definitely get a nice feeling in my stomach and feel excited about her.
In this case, I don't feel that, it makes me feel bad and worry a lot. I am trying to identify the reason for that.
- - I don't like her romantically, but am just desperate and it's my dick thinking instead of me? It would be wrong to get her to sleep with me and then realise/tell her I don't want to go out with her?
- - I am scared of a relationship? Like, I've never been in one and the changes that I'll have to make in my life scare me? Is that even possible?
- - Maybe I haven't seen certain traits that I subconsciously value in a girl? I sat down and gave it a thought and realised that if I don't like her, that may be because of three reasons (she may have not yet demonstrated it tho) - she is not passionate, is too laid back and not a person that is good to fool around together with (and I've always found that passionate kissing to be extremely hot and turning-on); she's not enough good looking by my standards (I find this kinda dumb, because she isn't at all ugly, but perhaps it is that I want a girl's smile to stun me, and hers doesn't?); or she's too short (I am 6'6 and when we hugged, she was no taller than chest level)?
- - the fact that it worked out to a date so easily turned me off? I know how I've always complained that girls never initiate the first step, but I will now surely stop doing that! Maybe I find it more bonding to initiate it myself? I don't know?!
We are yet to go on another one-two dates/hangouts? and I will determine how I really feel then I guess. If I don't feel any emotional bond I will call it off. (I have never, ever considered the opportunity of me rejecting a girl I've been on a date with)
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