Is this weird?

I've been dating a man for a little over a year. Almost every time I initiate, I get shot down. We still have plenty of sex. Just not when I initiate. Last week I was on my period so we didn't have sex for about 4 days even though he spent the night every one of those nights. So my cycle finishes and that night I initiate. He lays there telling me that since we haven't done it in a few days he's gone "dormant". That he just hasn't been thinking about it. I keep trying to get him in the mood and while it appears to be working physically, he keeps saying that he's not going to be able to get off. That it'll just be me that gets anything out of it, etc.

Well that shot the mood for me real quick! We talked about it some after that and seemed to talk it out. So last night I initiate again and he doesn't shoot me down this time but after I go, he tells me that he's not going to be able to go and that's the end.

Now before you ask. He's in his mid-30s, in great shape, works out with heavy weights several times a week. I don't think he's into porn as we've talked about it before. Even when he initiates, he sometimes has difficulty getting off and will take a while.

So is this weird? It's kinda frustrating me because I don't want to just "use" him for sex when he's not feeling it but I've never dated a man that wasn't all over a woman initiating things, whether he was in the mood or not he got there real quick.

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