Basically I've been close mates with this girl for a while now. We've always got on great; I think she's pretty, clever, funny and has a nice personality. I asked her out over a year ago but she rejected me and then got another boyfriend. Then she split up with him over summer, we became even closer and I asked her out again. Same result: she told me she didn't want to ruin the friendship. I was quite hurt after this for a while but sort of accepted that she just didn't have feelings for me.
Last week however, we were on a night out and I finally got with her. It was a pretty awesome moment and the first time I've felt this way about anyone. Then she pulls away after a while and yet again says she only sees me as a friend. Finally, I accept this is going nowhere and have told her I want to cut contact cos it's unhealthy for me to spend time with someone I see as more than a friend. She said this was okay.
I feel guilty for doing this as it's really awkward having to ignore her in lectures and I do miss her company. Problem is I don't think I can ever see her as just a friend. Do you think I've made the right decision? How do I stop feeling guilty for cutting her off? We've been pretty inseparable for the last few months so the no contact thing has proved hard to come to terms with.
Last week however, we were on a night out and I finally got with her. It was a pretty awesome moment and the first time I've felt this way about anyone. Then she pulls away after a while and yet again says she only sees me as a friend. Finally, I accept this is going nowhere and have told her I want to cut contact cos it's unhealthy for me to spend time with someone I see as more than a friend. She said this was okay.
I feel guilty for doing this as it's really awkward having to ignore her in lectures and I do miss her company. Problem is I don't think I can ever see her as just a friend. Do you think I've made the right decision? How do I stop feeling guilty for cutting her off? We've been pretty inseparable for the last few months so the no contact thing has proved hard to come to terms with.
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