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i am married with 3 children and resentment towards my h is building and i need some perspective please.....should i be getting resentful or should i stop getting my knickers in a twist over nothing.......please tell me....
my h works 2 weeks and then has 3 weeks off...in those 2 weeks he works 7am to 7pm....for 14 days, he's a manager so only has the direct boss to answer to, he gets his meals made, washing up done, bed made, laundry done, tea and cakes at 11am and coffee in the afternoon. Basically he has to work those 12 hours but whilst he's away he does not have any other chores, domestic or otherwise.
when he gets home...i think you can guess, he does nothing....we have 3 kids, 2 dogs, 2 holiday cottages which i run and manage plus a large house and 10,000m2 garden to maintain plus pool. Nice lifestyle i agree but i constantly feel like i am sinking...
the only thing he does is get up to get the kids to school on alternate days...the rest of the time he goes for a run, does weights, eats and drinks coffee and watches tv....
honestly that is it....i am grateful for the alternate day rest from getting up to do the kids but really is that all i should be expecting.....there are jobs that i do that if done by 2 people would be so much easier...
i mow, i chop wood, i use a chainsaw in the garden, i have put up every shelf in the house, every light fitting, i have decorated every room, furnished every room, i deal with juggling the finances (and yes its a monthly struggle to stay in the black) , i manage the kids and the schools, homework, make sure they have clothes, coats etc....in fact its too much to write down....you all live so you know what needs to be done.
when i get the hoover out etc his line is 'oh...i was just about to do that'
when i do diy he says 'oh you must write me a list and i will work through it'....i have done this in the past as he asked for it, it lasted one trip and then he tore it up and said it was insulting...
i'm just getting fed up and resentful.....am i wrong to be or right to be???
thanks for your insight
i am married with 3 children and resentment towards my h is building and i need some perspective please.....should i be getting resentful or should i stop getting my knickers in a twist over nothing.......please tell me....
my h works 2 weeks and then has 3 weeks off...in those 2 weeks he works 7am to 7pm....for 14 days, he's a manager so only has the direct boss to answer to, he gets his meals made, washing up done, bed made, laundry done, tea and cakes at 11am and coffee in the afternoon. Basically he has to work those 12 hours but whilst he's away he does not have any other chores, domestic or otherwise.
when he gets home...i think you can guess, he does nothing....we have 3 kids, 2 dogs, 2 holiday cottages which i run and manage plus a large house and 10,000m2 garden to maintain plus pool. Nice lifestyle i agree but i constantly feel like i am sinking...
the only thing he does is get up to get the kids to school on alternate days...the rest of the time he goes for a run, does weights, eats and drinks coffee and watches tv....
honestly that is it....i am grateful for the alternate day rest from getting up to do the kids but really is that all i should be expecting.....there are jobs that i do that if done by 2 people would be so much easier...
i mow, i chop wood, i use a chainsaw in the garden, i have put up every shelf in the house, every light fitting, i have decorated every room, furnished every room, i deal with juggling the finances (and yes its a monthly struggle to stay in the black) , i manage the kids and the schools, homework, make sure they have clothes, coats etc....in fact its too much to write down....you all live so you know what needs to be done.
when i get the hoover out etc his line is 'oh...i was just about to do that'
when i do diy he says 'oh you must write me a list and i will work through it'....i have done this in the past as he asked for it, it lasted one trip and then he tore it up and said it was insulting...
i'm just getting fed up and resentful.....am i wrong to be or right to be???
thanks for your insight
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