I am happily married to a good husband. I have lots of friends, though not as many close friends as I'd like. About 3 years ago I met Paco. He is very intelligent and funny. I became friends with him because of his charm. He said he was going through hard times, so I helped him out financially. He is an alcoholic who doesn't work and lives with relatives. He doesn't have a car. We are all roughly 50 years old.
My husband doesn't have any jealousy issues or concerns in that respect. But he is really pissed that I help Paco out financially. Other friends feel like he is a loser. Paco has some mental illness issues and becomes suicidal if I stop helping.
I am torn because I care for Paco and am very concerned about how he will do if I stop helping him. Yet I am resentful because it is hard on us financially to help him. I also am not happy that my friendship with him does affect my marriage. Hubby tolerates him but it makes him upset with me. I end up yelling at Paco at times because I am frustrated with the situation.
Paco is very sweet and I really do care deeply for him. It would devastate me if he harmed himself. His friendship means a great deal to me but I am resentful of the demands. However he cannot get by without my financial assistance. There is no other place to get money.
Is it fair for me to burden my family helping someone? My hubby may be annoyed, but I am afraid Paco would die without my help. I hate that this friendship pulls me in two different directions, but I don't know how to make everyone happy, including myself.
My husband doesn't have any jealousy issues or concerns in that respect. But he is really pissed that I help Paco out financially. Other friends feel like he is a loser. Paco has some mental illness issues and becomes suicidal if I stop helping.
I am torn because I care for Paco and am very concerned about how he will do if I stop helping him. Yet I am resentful because it is hard on us financially to help him. I also am not happy that my friendship with him does affect my marriage. Hubby tolerates him but it makes him upset with me. I end up yelling at Paco at times because I am frustrated with the situation.
Paco is very sweet and I really do care deeply for him. It would devastate me if he harmed himself. His friendship means a great deal to me but I am resentful of the demands. However he cannot get by without my financial assistance. There is no other place to get money.
Is it fair for me to burden my family helping someone? My hubby may be annoyed, but I am afraid Paco would die without my help. I hate that this friendship pulls me in two different directions, but I don't know how to make everyone happy, including myself.
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