long distance relationship - like someone else

Hi everyone Would really appreciate some advice about this. Iv been with my boyfriend for 3.5yrs now -he is my first proper bf. We met at uni and hav been together since then. 2months ago, i got a good job opportunity up north and he stayed down south. So now we r 6 hours apart (by train or car) whereas at uni we wer living within 30mins of each other. We still chat on the phone everyday, but because of the distance, we are only able to see each other once a month. Our jobs mean that we r very busy and hav to work nights as well as weekends sometimes so with all that into consideration, we felt that once a month would b reasonable and that we take it in turns to travel. To b honest, after uni, the way our job applications were meant that we were always likely to end up long distance. However, i do feel that apart from the times we see each other -i really do not feel that i am in a relationship and just dont feel that i am in an active relationship apart from when we see each other. Also, i have no regrets about moving as i moved for a good research opportunity in something that im interested in and he wanted to stay south to be near family...so either way we would be in an LDR probably The main issue im having is that iv started to have feelings for a guy at work. I dont know if its just a fleeting crush or something more, but i do really like him and think about him all the time. We work together on the same team in the same department..he is really lovely, we get on very well and he also happens to be incredibly attractive. I dont know if this guy has a girlfriend (as i havent asked and he hasnt broached the subject). I also havent mentioned anything to him about my boyfriend (which i feel is abit of a worrying sign) but then he hasnt asked me if im with anybody and wev not mentioned that stuff. I dont know if he likes me or has feelings for me..there are a few things but im unsure if its just him being a really nice friendly guy. For example, because im new to the area, he showed me round a few weeks ago after work in his car and invited me to his home for coffee. Iv also noticed a couple of times at work, hes kind of placed his hand accross my back (but this could be a cultural/friendly thing). The other day it was just me working in the afternoon on the ward so he came to help and brought me up a coffee (i have quite a specific starbucks order which he remembered). We often have lunch together most days if wer working on the same team. I dont know if these things are all just him being friendly or something more. I feel bad that i have these feelings for him. I also feel bad that iv not mentioned anything about my boyfriend to him. I also have not told my bf how i feel although he does know that i work with this guy and that hes a few years more senior than me. I feel so confused as i dont know if this guy at work feels the same way about me..as he has not asked me out or anything like that, but then we do work together most days. However, despite these feelings- i dont know if i could just give up my relationship of 3.5 years (iv known my bf for 6yrs altogether) for someone that i dont even know feels the same or may not work out at all Would really appreciate if anyone has any advice please? Or has been in a similar situation? Thank you for reading xx

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