I finally left.. but already struggling

Ok! First off, thank you for reading. Some of you may or may not have seen posts from me here before. Anyway, my husband and I have been married for 13 months. I love him like crazy. However, he has a bad habit of leaving to go drink and leaves me alone for hours without answering his phone. I don't drink so he never asks me to go with him. But, he leaves without saying a word. For example, this last Friday he tells me he was going to the gym. At around 3:30pm. Next thing you know, 2 hours pass and I call him. No answer. He ends up at home at 1:15 am drunk off his butt.This is his typical behavior. He does this about every 1.5 months he goes off on his little escapes. The thing is he leaves, doesn't tell me anything, n totally ignores me for the whole time. He says he doesn't tell me because I'll just get mad n argue. Granted. He's done this all throughout our marriage so of course I'm suspicious n always on my guard about this. He used to do it m ainly when we argued, But now he just does it when he feels like it. Ok, so I've told him time n time again how I feel about it, I've threatened to leave, we have both cried, its not right n it makes me feel utterly miserable. I feel so lonely when he's gone , especially not knowing where he is. The last time he did it, he left me at home with HIS two kids (12 n 13) asking where their dad is. Not to mention, he spent ALL of our money n now we r broke. At first I decided to tell him that he needs to tell me when he is leaving and feel comfortable with telling me and that I wasn't going to argue. But, wait, wth I'm not ok with him going out for hours on end, or going to strip clubs. AT ALL. So, I chose not to go that route. Well, he says I need to stop treating him how I do. Which is that I get really mean and nonchalant. I mean, how am I supposed to act? he gets home after a night of drinking and says its all my fault n I made him do it. Am I supposed to act hunky dory? Today, we got into an argument n he told me "why don't u just go to ur moms house?" So, I finally left. He has told me this more than once already in the past couple of weeks. We are living at my in-laws while we were in between houses. So, I finally left. And I feel a huge sense of relief and weight lifted. BUT idk what to do next. I don't wanna divorce. I love this man. I told him without any drastic changes I am not coming back bcuz it will just happen again and I will be a fool for coming back without any evidence of anything changing. He has told me before that he was sorry n would change n it has never happened. He has even promised and vowed to me but he still did it again. Now, the kicker n why I have such a huge issue with this: -I don't like being left alone without knowing the whereabouts of my husband or being able to get in touch with him -We call ourselves Christians and preach no drinking. Yet, he does this. And it is extremely hypocritical which totally gets me angry, I feel like I'm keeping his secrets I'm not sure what to do. He's not the type to chase me. He is extremely prideful. When I left today, he pretty much sat there dumbfounded. Like he couldn't believe I was leaving or simply didn't care.

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