Am I asking too much

I am not even quite sure where to begin... I guess ill pin point the background. I am a stay at home mom. My husband has a son that is almost 3 that we have 100% of the time due to mommy disappearing pretty much. He has a lot of issues to say the least because of what mommy did throughout the pregnancy. He is more than a handful. We also have a 9 month old that is smart as a whip but is stubborn like daddy...lol. And I am currently 25 weeks pregnant. My husband owns his own business that I help out with quite a bit. With baby brain I am a little hindered in how much right now though. He has several guys to do the labor and he goes out here and there to do some of the jobs. He is currently working on the website to make things even easier. My issue is that I ask him to do something and it does not get done! Drives me nuts. Such as bring the laundry down stairs so I can do it. Laundry piles up and he gets upset cuz he does not have clean pants. When I can't do the laundry if I don't have it to do! He says I never tell him. Mind you he has now 2 post it's over his power button on his computer screen to do so and I have told him countless times but I don't want to nag and get him upset. Now this is what I do Take care of 9 month old nearly 100% of the time Take care of 3 year old 60%+ of the time Was dry fold and put away laundry Go grocery shopping Make 80% of the meals(supposed to be 50/50) Do nearly all dishes (supposed to be 50/50) Do payroll Do billing Plan out flights hotels etc for business Clean house Do bills Do legal stuff Manage daily schedule Remind my husband of everything he needs to do So on so forth My husband does (supposed to at least) ill put a star but what he actually does without argument or what not Work on site* Call customers* Billing 50/50 dishes and food Take care of 3 year old when home (for the most part he does)* Take care of litter box (mind you its automatic) Bring laundry up and down stairs do some of the labor (in average that's about 2 days a week)* So on so forth Today we had an argument that is far from new its pretty much the only thing we argue about is who's not doing what... I don't feel I am asking a lot from him with that list but he feels he does so much more and I vise versa. To top it off what I do is never good enough. Very seldom do I hear a thank you or good job. More so you messed this up or why can't you do this right for once etc. He does not see what I do or understand despite how hard I try to tell him. I am always tempted to stop doing what I do but I know things would fall apart. I dont want him to suffer to prove a point. I just need to know if I am being dumb and not seeing that i ask too much or how to get him to see that im not asking a lot and to get him to see what i do do. So i can stop being belittled.

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