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I'm a 28 yr old female who have been married 9 years. Me and my husband have five children. The youngest being 3 weeks old. Last week I saw that my husband had a new friend on his social media account. I asked who was she. He told me a lady who he met at his clinical site for college. That he added a few people for networking purposes. The next day she had sent a message saying that "she's waiting". I asked him about this. I then found a message where he told her to text him directly. He had his phone locked and says that they just had casual conversation, yet he deleted the messages. I messaged the woman and she said she has a bf and that her and my husband are just friends. At this point he confirmed that his intentions were not good. I deleted her from his account.
He says the reason he was pursuing another woman is because when I was 21 I cheated on him. And that he feels it's not fair to him, and that he wanted to get it out of his system.
I explained to him that I think its ridiculous that he tries to justify his actions by guilt tripping me into something that happened 7 years ago. I have apologized so many times, and we have both matured from 7 yrs ago.
Last night he added the girl back to his account, but messaged her and said that he can't communicate with her by text anymore because it was not respectful to his wife.
My dilemma is that first off I'm extremely hurt. I feel betrayed. I have been home with 5 kids, one a newborn while he has made time to talk to another woman. Second he has vowed to never hurt me again. But I'm scared that we will be going through this again a year down the road. I also don't feel 100% sure that he has been completely honest on what happened.
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I'm a 28 yr old female who have been married 9 years. Me and my husband have five children. The youngest being 3 weeks old. Last week I saw that my husband had a new friend on his social media account. I asked who was she. He told me a lady who he met at his clinical site for college. That he added a few people for networking purposes. The next day she had sent a message saying that "she's waiting". I asked him about this. I then found a message where he told her to text him directly. He had his phone locked and says that they just had casual conversation, yet he deleted the messages. I messaged the woman and she said she has a bf and that her and my husband are just friends. At this point he confirmed that his intentions were not good. I deleted her from his account.
He says the reason he was pursuing another woman is because when I was 21 I cheated on him. And that he feels it's not fair to him, and that he wanted to get it out of his system.
I explained to him that I think its ridiculous that he tries to justify his actions by guilt tripping me into something that happened 7 years ago. I have apologized so many times, and we have both matured from 7 yrs ago.
Last night he added the girl back to his account, but messaged her and said that he can't communicate with her by text anymore because it was not respectful to his wife.
My dilemma is that first off I'm extremely hurt. I feel betrayed. I have been home with 5 kids, one a newborn while he has made time to talk to another woman. Second he has vowed to never hurt me again. But I'm scared that we will be going through this again a year down the road. I also don't feel 100% sure that he has been completely honest on what happened.
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