Newly Married and already disinterested

My husband is 12 years my senior and a long time friend. There used to be such passion and fun between us and now I find myself wanting to be in a separate room, feeling relieved when he's busy or napping or locking myself in the bathroom hiding, playing online games and listening to music pretending to be in the bath. I don't know what happened. I've tried to bring up the concerns and needs I have but he gets annoyed, tells me all about how I'm wrong or being crazy or starts a fight so I don't talk to him about anything out of fear that he will just dominate the discussion, make me feel like a stupid needy idiot or start a fight. I've tried dressing up and putting more effort into ensuring that he feels special and loved but still There's no intimacy, no passion, and sex has become so routine it usually consists of him waking me up with little or sometimes no foreplay or affection, ignoring my needs and turn ons completely, finishing and going back to sl eep. We have sex maybe once a week but if I say anything he turns it around and makes it about him and tells me how wrong I am.We used to have the most amazing sex and this morning I realized that because our semi existent sex life is so lacking I had a very lackluster orgasm from mediocre sex Part of the way through I realized that it wasn't very arousing and he honestly looked completely disinterested. There was a time when I felt beautiful, sexy, desired because he couldn't keep his hands or his eyes off me, was always attentive and flirty and now he doesn't look at me or seem to have any general interest in me other than finishing quickly I don't even want to change in the same room because I feel so unattractive and undesired. He can download massive amounts of porn and pics but can't spend a second on foreplay or he's not in the mood even though I know he's just downloaded porn. He used to tell me how much he loved kissing me and now he doesn't kiss me at all. I'm mi serable and want to fix things but every time I express a feeling he make me feel small, stupid and trivial. It feels like now that he has me he doesn't see the need to put effort into our sex life. I made it very clear that I have an active drive and view sex as important but he says that sex doesn't mean anything and he does not view it as a necessity. Any advice?

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