I haven't been on TAM in a while. So I guess this is an update, but also a question, or a bit of a cry for help as I don't know where else to turn in this situation.
Anyway, I surmise it's appropriate to start with the highlights:
- I'm the BS, my D-Day was August 2012 when I was 8 months pregnant with DS#2. He was unremorseful and left/I kicked him out.
- He had cyber affairs and heavily used/downloaded hardcore porn and as I later discovered (but never wrote about here) affairs through work/Facebook.
- February 2013, our oldest (8 then, 9 now) has suicidal ideations requiring a hospital visitand my ex decides to sleep over on Monday and Friday nights.
- Early June 2013, we have a few drinks and we have sex.
- Still in June, (no drinking involved) we talk a lot and he still misses me, still loves me and wants to work it out and move in, on July 1st.w
- July - Present he's still wanting to work things out but WITHOUT counseling which I told him is a dealbreaker.
- Currently, he is living here most nights (other times he's at the cottage) and we are having sex. I consider him my "friend with benefits" but he wants more and I don't want to give/be more without counseling.
Anyway, comments or thoughts appreciated. I needed to get this off my chest and update my story here on TAM as I think I'll be using this site more often like I used to...
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