posting in a new thread, but many of you know my story. We are still in R even thou I have struggled a lot, but slowly moving forward.
So there is this dad (a cop, divorced....his daughter is a very close friends with ours) at our daughters cheerleading club that was getting friendly with her and she told me he eventually hit on her and told her he wanted to sleep with her, that she was gorgeous and he couldnt keep from asking....wtf?!? :mad:
She turned him down and told him she was married and would never think of that....he proceeded to tell her "so what, many woman dont care". She totally shut him down and told him not to go there again ever.....
so the problem - she told me two days later after it happened....she says she was most definitely going to tell me (and she did tell me w/o me asking) but was afraid of my reaction and wanted to wait for the right moment to tell me.
The other thing too is that she was going away with my daughter on a cheerleading trip over the weekend where this guy was also going, it was during the trip that she told me about all this. She didnt want to tell me before going on the trip because she was afraid I would be a mess about it knowing he was also going. I was livid with her about this obviously. She kept in touch with me continuously during the trip and said the guy never made a move on her or said anything other than talking about the event and stuff along with other parents there
This issue of her fearing my reaction is not cool with me, and I thought we were passed that....so that in itself is something that disappoints me, so we fought over that a lot since....and I have reminded her that these kinds of things need to be told immediately, regardless of what she thinks my reaction will be or no matter how well does she think she handled it.
I have always been used to guys hitting on her, she is very good looking, great body, gets ask if she is a model, blah, blah...all the time, so not something new or that bothers me a lot....but a freakin cop??? and for him to say is not a prob that she is married?? wtf is going on in this world?!?!
W doesnt want me to do anything or to approach him, she told me she handled and that he has kept his distance and very respectful since, they only talk about cheer stuff and the kids.
any thoughts or advice? should I have handled it differently? I was very mad about it for a few days but am ok now for the most part and have made things very clear to her on this and its never to happen again
So there is this dad (a cop, divorced....his daughter is a very close friends with ours) at our daughters cheerleading club that was getting friendly with her and she told me he eventually hit on her and told her he wanted to sleep with her, that she was gorgeous and he couldnt keep from asking....wtf?!? :mad:
She turned him down and told him she was married and would never think of that....he proceeded to tell her "so what, many woman dont care". She totally shut him down and told him not to go there again ever.....
so the problem - she told me two days later after it happened....she says she was most definitely going to tell me (and she did tell me w/o me asking) but was afraid of my reaction and wanted to wait for the right moment to tell me.
The other thing too is that she was going away with my daughter on a cheerleading trip over the weekend where this guy was also going, it was during the trip that she told me about all this. She didnt want to tell me before going on the trip because she was afraid I would be a mess about it knowing he was also going. I was livid with her about this obviously. She kept in touch with me continuously during the trip and said the guy never made a move on her or said anything other than talking about the event and stuff along with other parents there
This issue of her fearing my reaction is not cool with me, and I thought we were passed that....so that in itself is something that disappoints me, so we fought over that a lot since....and I have reminded her that these kinds of things need to be told immediately, regardless of what she thinks my reaction will be or no matter how well does she think she handled it.
I have always been used to guys hitting on her, she is very good looking, great body, gets ask if she is a model, blah, blah...all the time, so not something new or that bothers me a lot....but a freakin cop??? and for him to say is not a prob that she is married?? wtf is going on in this world?!?!
W doesnt want me to do anything or to approach him, she told me she handled and that he has kept his distance and very respectful since, they only talk about cheer stuff and the kids.
any thoughts or advice? should I have handled it differently? I was very mad about it for a few days but am ok now for the most part and have made things very clear to her on this and its never to happen again
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