Quality Time
This term has recently reemerged to accompany husband hobby threads. I'm feeling a lot of anger associated with the posts demanding exacting reports on Quality Time. The accusation is that the man is obviously not providing enough Quality Time. The problem I suspect is that there is no clear definition of Quality Time. Some of the attempted definitions are.
- One-on-one maintaining the relationship.
- Making her feel like a priority.
- Dedicated time where it is just you and your wife doing something together,
- Discussing your relationship,
- Enjoying each other's company.
My question to everyone, who is giving or receiving this Quality Time, is: What does this look like in clear terms that even a man can understand?
Quite a bit of the time I spend with my wife involves shopping. I've recently seen that I should be physically abused for thinking that this is Quality Time. As far as relationship discussing, she tends to resist that. If it was simply time together where she feels happy it would be lying in bed with my butt touching her hip while she reads. I'm pretty sure that that isn't Quality Time.
OK, everyone jump in and give it your best shot. What is Quality time to you? And what makes it quality time instead of just time together?
MN
This term has recently reemerged to accompany husband hobby threads. I'm feeling a lot of anger associated with the posts demanding exacting reports on Quality Time. The accusation is that the man is obviously not providing enough Quality Time. The problem I suspect is that there is no clear definition of Quality Time. Some of the attempted definitions are.
- One-on-one maintaining the relationship.
- Making her feel like a priority.
- Dedicated time where it is just you and your wife doing something together,
- Discussing your relationship,
- Enjoying each other's company.
My question to everyone, who is giving or receiving this Quality Time, is: What does this look like in clear terms that even a man can understand?
Quite a bit of the time I spend with my wife involves shopping. I've recently seen that I should be physically abused for thinking that this is Quality Time. As far as relationship discussing, she tends to resist that. If it was simply time together where she feels happy it would be lying in bed with my butt touching her hip while she reads. I'm pretty sure that that isn't Quality Time.
OK, everyone jump in and give it your best shot. What is Quality time to you? And what makes it quality time instead of just time together?
MN
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