Hello. New to site and never before posted anything anywhere. So I am a little nervous just doing this.
I need help I am so unsure of what to do.
I am a stay at home mom and have been for 17 years. We have been together for 23 years and married for 19 years. We have 3 children, 16,12, and 11.
My husband cheated on me 3 times with one of them causing him to loose his job. A year ago found email and texts from another woman that where a bit intimate. I asked him to never ever speak with her or contact her in anyway ever again. He whole heartedly agreed. Then two weeks ago I found that they where back in contact with each other. I told him I found out. I started looking through his emails and phone log again, for some reason I just felt I needed to do that again. I used to do this back a year ago.
He is the type of guy that is a very harsh personality and most people don't like to hang out with him so I have lost friends because of this.
I have absolutely no career, degrees or updated skills. We are very much in the wrong in our financial decisions and so there is no extra cash in the bank in particular to support two households on his income.
Today I again wanted to look through his emails to see if he was still in contact with that woman and so I searched her name in his email and up popped a drafted letter to me about how he does want to be with other women and how he thinks we will be happier apart. He wrote this after telling me face to face last week that I am the only one he wants to be with and how he wants to grow old with me.
I feel so incredibly stuck. Not sure if I want to stay but even if I want to seperate..... I have no money to do so and I live far away from any relatives and really have no friends here since we have moved around alot because of his job. (yes, i have been the most supportive wife of an executive!!! Put his career first and said bye to family and new friends I just made each and every time!!)
I really would like to hear from others. Thank so very much for reading!
I need help I am so unsure of what to do.
I am a stay at home mom and have been for 17 years. We have been together for 23 years and married for 19 years. We have 3 children, 16,12, and 11.
My husband cheated on me 3 times with one of them causing him to loose his job. A year ago found email and texts from another woman that where a bit intimate. I asked him to never ever speak with her or contact her in anyway ever again. He whole heartedly agreed. Then two weeks ago I found that they where back in contact with each other. I told him I found out. I started looking through his emails and phone log again, for some reason I just felt I needed to do that again. I used to do this back a year ago.
He is the type of guy that is a very harsh personality and most people don't like to hang out with him so I have lost friends because of this.
I have absolutely no career, degrees or updated skills. We are very much in the wrong in our financial decisions and so there is no extra cash in the bank in particular to support two households on his income.
Today I again wanted to look through his emails to see if he was still in contact with that woman and so I searched her name in his email and up popped a drafted letter to me about how he does want to be with other women and how he thinks we will be happier apart. He wrote this after telling me face to face last week that I am the only one he wants to be with and how he wants to grow old with me.
I feel so incredibly stuck. Not sure if I want to stay but even if I want to seperate..... I have no money to do so and I live far away from any relatives and really have no friends here since we have moved around alot because of his job. (yes, i have been the most supportive wife of an executive!!! Put his career first and said bye to family and new friends I just made each and every time!!)
I really would like to hear from others. Thank so very much for reading!
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