My wife and I have been on a roller coaster ride of intimacy and emotional connectedness over the past year. I've had some work-related stress that's sapped my energy and made me less interested in intimacy from time to time.
But we've also had good periods, even recently, where we took time for ourselves and really connected, both physically and emotionally. She seems to truly enjoy that, as do I.
However, she appears to want (need? crave?) intimacy every single day and gets upset when I don't show any initiative. I think she interprets that as lack of interest rather than the real reason of me just being tired.
When the relationship is good, it's very good and we're both really happy. I try to be as attentive, caring, and loving as possible. But I also have a lot of stuff going on that stresses me out and makes me tired.
She takes naps on the weekends, and spends hours on weekday evenings watching TV. I'm usually working on stuff (bills, paperwork, taxes, some freelance work, and other side projects that are necessary and not hobby-like or relaxing). So when I go upstairs to the bedroom, I'm tired and haven't really had a chance to "veg out" a bit like she's had.
I don't know how to "disconnect" my stress-inducers so I can connect with her at bedtime. I don't know how to "be there" for her every single night. I don't know how to get her to understand that sometimes I'm just tired and it's not at all lack of interest in her.
How can I make her happy on a more consistent basis? Thanks in advance...
But we've also had good periods, even recently, where we took time for ourselves and really connected, both physically and emotionally. She seems to truly enjoy that, as do I.
However, she appears to want (need? crave?) intimacy every single day and gets upset when I don't show any initiative. I think she interprets that as lack of interest rather than the real reason of me just being tired.
When the relationship is good, it's very good and we're both really happy. I try to be as attentive, caring, and loving as possible. But I also have a lot of stuff going on that stresses me out and makes me tired.
She takes naps on the weekends, and spends hours on weekday evenings watching TV. I'm usually working on stuff (bills, paperwork, taxes, some freelance work, and other side projects that are necessary and not hobby-like or relaxing). So when I go upstairs to the bedroom, I'm tired and haven't really had a chance to "veg out" a bit like she's had.
I don't know how to "disconnect" my stress-inducers so I can connect with her at bedtime. I don't know how to "be there" for her every single night. I don't know how to get her to understand that sometimes I'm just tired and it's not at all lack of interest in her.
How can I make her happy on a more consistent basis? Thanks in advance...
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