I don't know where else to turn, I need help.
Ive been with my husband for 3 years, married for 1yr. While dating we never had a fight! 3 months after marriage we had huge fight were we both threw the word divorce out there. He kicked me out, and I moved out all my things. We decided to work things through and got back together. Since then, it has been fight over fight. Every two weeks, and every time we fight he yells i want a divorce. I have moved in and out 4x and now I'm out. Again we are trying to work things out, but i don't even know if its worth it. We love each other but I don't know why we can't just get along like we did before marriage. Its been 3 months since ive been out and trying to come back but NOW he doesn't want me to come back until I apologize to his entire family...for...being quite around them and kept to myself at a few family outings because I was upset with my husband after just having a big fight. He things i was rude and disrespected them. Because of all the drama between us the past ye ar, we have turned our families against the other and I understand that. After asking me to apologize to his family. I asked him if he can just talk to mine to smooth things over with them especially with the holidays around the corner. My family doesn't even want him there and I hate that. He thinks I'm asking him because he asked me first and it's a game I'm playing but its not at all. i just want things to go back to normal. he agreed and said next week or when "I'm ready" but you have to make a mence with my entire family first before I talk to yours. We got into a huge fight about that. Why are my requests being put on hold until issues with ur family is resolved. I asked that I get an apology from his father as I was disrespected by him on so many levels and my husband knows it, he said with in time that will happen. U need to apologize to my family first. There is so much more to our story but I don't want to go into all the details. The reason I moved out in first place is he yelled at me in front of his family about dresses I bought that he didn't want me to wear so it went back and forth until he emailed his dad he wants a divorce. Then I packed my things and got out. My question is... Am I handling the situation all wrong?? Am I just making thins worse on my marriage?? Why do I feel so guilty after every fight when sometimes it's not even my fault?? Should I have just let the whole argument go about him talking to my family? I don't know what to do anymore. I think his family hates me especially his dad and they are all getting in his head for him to leave me and its working
Ive been with my husband for 3 years, married for 1yr. While dating we never had a fight! 3 months after marriage we had huge fight were we both threw the word divorce out there. He kicked me out, and I moved out all my things. We decided to work things through and got back together. Since then, it has been fight over fight. Every two weeks, and every time we fight he yells i want a divorce. I have moved in and out 4x and now I'm out. Again we are trying to work things out, but i don't even know if its worth it. We love each other but I don't know why we can't just get along like we did before marriage. Its been 3 months since ive been out and trying to come back but NOW he doesn't want me to come back until I apologize to his entire family...for...being quite around them and kept to myself at a few family outings because I was upset with my husband after just having a big fight. He things i was rude and disrespected them. Because of all the drama between us the past ye ar, we have turned our families against the other and I understand that. After asking me to apologize to his family. I asked him if he can just talk to mine to smooth things over with them especially with the holidays around the corner. My family doesn't even want him there and I hate that. He thinks I'm asking him because he asked me first and it's a game I'm playing but its not at all. i just want things to go back to normal. he agreed and said next week or when "I'm ready" but you have to make a mence with my entire family first before I talk to yours. We got into a huge fight about that. Why are my requests being put on hold until issues with ur family is resolved. I asked that I get an apology from his father as I was disrespected by him on so many levels and my husband knows it, he said with in time that will happen. U need to apologize to my family first. There is so much more to our story but I don't want to go into all the details. The reason I moved out in first place is he yelled at me in front of his family about dresses I bought that he didn't want me to wear so it went back and forth until he emailed his dad he wants a divorce. Then I packed my things and got out. My question is... Am I handling the situation all wrong?? Am I just making thins worse on my marriage?? Why do I feel so guilty after every fight when sometimes it's not even my fault?? Should I have just let the whole argument go about him talking to my family? I don't know what to do anymore. I think his family hates me especially his dad and they are all getting in his head for him to leave me and its working
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