Hi there,
I would like to talk about my story and have some advices from you guys.
I am 33 years old and i have been with my girlfriend since now 8 years. We had our up and down like every couples i guess but something unusual happened last year.
I had to go for a few months overseas and while i was away my girlfriend's mom was staying in our place. She is extremely attached to her daughter since she raised her alone and i didn't thought it was a bad thing at first. She will call her morning noon afternoon evening and night every single days for hours.
After 7 year with my girlfriend which is last year i had to go 2 months overseas also for work. My girlfriend asked me if i was ok with having her mom living with us permanently since she lost her house and had no place to stay at all. I agreed but on certain conditions like takin a larger place since we was in a 1 bedroom condo.
We made a plan of takin a rental for her for a few months on her own first and then eventually all moving together.
As soon as i arrived overseas my girlfriend started telling me that we had to take a larger place right away because she didn't wanted to have her mom somewhere on her own.
We got into a fight because of it and went 6 weeks without talking. I then decided to check to see whats going on and what she did since i was certain that she took another rental on my back. I then discovered that she went on a date with a guy and reconnected with a few of her exs by flirting online. She broke the rental agreement that was signed by both of us by contacting the landlord and telling him that we broke up and that i decided to stay overseas.
I felt betrayed and i was furious when i found all that out. Since i cared about my girlfriend and felt bad for maybe not being helpful i decided to re connect with her. After some holidays overseas to reconnect i came back to stay 2 months in my condo with her and her mom. Her mom instantly made me feel like i was a stranger in my own place and couple bad arguments happened with her. My girlfriend got upset but i decided to apologize and then avoid any contact with her mom to avoid upsetting my girlfriend.
She then promised me after the 2 months there that she will tell her mom to leave and take her own place but after few weeks she told me that we should break up and that she decided to stay with her mom. After a couple weeks trying to discuss she apologized and just told me that i should just accept the fact to live with her mom. I have been overseas in my hometown working and not seeing my girlfriend since almost a year and i had to deal with that situation all along. She came to visit last june for a few days and told me that things was fine and that we will be takin a larger place soon for all of us.
Few days ago i discovered that the landlords told her that she needs to leave the condo since he was coming back in a couple months to live back there. I then discovered that she was looking at places and eventually a mortgage without telling me a word about it and told me that she thought the relationships won't work probably because she was scared that i dont like her mom etc....
I dont know what to feel or how to handle that at all. I was searching online to find similar stories but i never found a story online where a women brings by force her mother into a relationship like that.
Something important to mention is that i am an entrepreneur so i didn't had regular incomes for a while and my girlfriend was working and dealing with the majority of the bills. She agreed on that saying that i should focus on building my business and that she was there to cover and help. I have a feeling that i made a big mistake by trusting her because she used that against me after saying that she was paying everything so i had no say in anything. She became all the sudden individual because it was perfect for her and her mom agenda.
I will appreciate some advices.
Thank you for takin the time to read all that.
Simon.
I would like to talk about my story and have some advices from you guys.
I am 33 years old and i have been with my girlfriend since now 8 years. We had our up and down like every couples i guess but something unusual happened last year.
I had to go for a few months overseas and while i was away my girlfriend's mom was staying in our place. She is extremely attached to her daughter since she raised her alone and i didn't thought it was a bad thing at first. She will call her morning noon afternoon evening and night every single days for hours.
After 7 year with my girlfriend which is last year i had to go 2 months overseas also for work. My girlfriend asked me if i was ok with having her mom living with us permanently since she lost her house and had no place to stay at all. I agreed but on certain conditions like takin a larger place since we was in a 1 bedroom condo.
We made a plan of takin a rental for her for a few months on her own first and then eventually all moving together.
As soon as i arrived overseas my girlfriend started telling me that we had to take a larger place right away because she didn't wanted to have her mom somewhere on her own.
We got into a fight because of it and went 6 weeks without talking. I then decided to check to see whats going on and what she did since i was certain that she took another rental on my back. I then discovered that she went on a date with a guy and reconnected with a few of her exs by flirting online. She broke the rental agreement that was signed by both of us by contacting the landlord and telling him that we broke up and that i decided to stay overseas.
I felt betrayed and i was furious when i found all that out. Since i cared about my girlfriend and felt bad for maybe not being helpful i decided to re connect with her. After some holidays overseas to reconnect i came back to stay 2 months in my condo with her and her mom. Her mom instantly made me feel like i was a stranger in my own place and couple bad arguments happened with her. My girlfriend got upset but i decided to apologize and then avoid any contact with her mom to avoid upsetting my girlfriend.
She then promised me after the 2 months there that she will tell her mom to leave and take her own place but after few weeks she told me that we should break up and that she decided to stay with her mom. After a couple weeks trying to discuss she apologized and just told me that i should just accept the fact to live with her mom. I have been overseas in my hometown working and not seeing my girlfriend since almost a year and i had to deal with that situation all along. She came to visit last june for a few days and told me that things was fine and that we will be takin a larger place soon for all of us.
Few days ago i discovered that the landlords told her that she needs to leave the condo since he was coming back in a couple months to live back there. I then discovered that she was looking at places and eventually a mortgage without telling me a word about it and told me that she thought the relationships won't work probably because she was scared that i dont like her mom etc....
I dont know what to feel or how to handle that at all. I was searching online to find similar stories but i never found a story online where a women brings by force her mother into a relationship like that.
Something important to mention is that i am an entrepreneur so i didn't had regular incomes for a while and my girlfriend was working and dealing with the majority of the bills. She agreed on that saying that i should focus on building my business and that she was there to cover and help. I have a feeling that i made a big mistake by trusting her because she used that against me after saying that she was paying everything so i had no say in anything. She became all the sudden individual because it was perfect for her and her mom agenda.
I will appreciate some advices.
Thank you for takin the time to read all that.
Simon.
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