So this is the situation: I have been single for only about 3 months since ending my previous relationship (3 and a half years long). My friend and his ex have been seperate for about 5/6 months (were together a little longer than I was with my ex), although I know they've 'seen' each other a couple of times since.
When I ended my own relationship I was quite down for the first week or so and she kind of helped comfort me during this time, we spoke over text mainly and often ran into each other on weekends when we were out drinking with friends. Anyway we began to text a lot, constantly actually and became quite close. We flirted when we seen each other on nights out, we kissed and generally began to develop initial feelings for each other over a period of a few weeks, although at first we both admitted it was strange (not in bad way). We never did anything else than kiss up to this point.
So we continued texting and arranged to see each other during the day when we weren't working and spend some time with each other...we both said that we'd not rush into anything and just see how things go. So we've been to each others houses (we both still live at home by the way [19 y/o]), been to the cinema together, had cosy nights in etc. and to be honest we've just acted like a couple and it's been perfect. Over the past couple of weeks I've maybe seen her in ten of those days and my feelings have only intensified.
Obviously, this is all fine and dandy, but going back to the main issue here- she is the ex of one of my best friends.
I fully intend to explain the situation to him before I officially commit to anything, mainly just out of courtesy and respect. I didn't mean for anything like this to happen, things just developed from general conversation and I actually do really like her, a lot. I know for a fact that he knows something may be up though, as a few weeks ago he caught her texting me (when out drinking with friends) and apparently wasnt too happy about it, although he hasn't said anything to me and has acted exactly the same around me since then. Also, he knows that I've been out with her (abielt with two others as well, we werent alone) and we spoke about that. He even asked me if I had sex with her in a friendly tone (we all went back to her house after for drinks and we all stayed over)... I didn't and to quote he replied 'Why not? Yes it'd have been weird but you may as well have!' He is also seeing someone new now as well, although I'm not sure how serious.
This may seem like a good sign that he would be okay with it but im not sure if it was just a front...he is quite a laid back person though.
So would i be a bas*ard for going ahead with it?
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