So I'm going out with this guy for about 7 months and I just feel he doesn't give me the same effort I give him. I have such strong feelings for him and he claims to do the same for me but...
Like I don't feel he understands the difference between what is expected In a relationship and what counts as making effort.
The overview:
He keeps cancelling on plans we make, (not all the time) and for stupid reasons for example he hasn't been able to drink for a while. (Long story) anyway he has an appointment to see a doctor and he's known this date for months and he knows it entails him having to go for blood tests etc and that it would make him tired etc. This appointment is early morning and I ask him to follow me to UNI (live in a house) and he picks the day of his appointment so he can basically celebrate him being allowed to drink and smoke. Just to clarify HE picks the day not me. Few days after we make the plans and it's getting closer to the appointment I ask him and he basically says no he can't come because his family will probably not want him out after he's gone through loads of medical tests. I understand this but I don't understand why he doesn't using his initiative and thinking about these things before he makes plans with me. I usually try and keep myself busy during the holidays and I need ed to go back to UNI to collect some stuff as I'm working back home in another city. He knows I'm busy for the rest if the week. Then after he tells me he has the nerve to say I feel like I'm letting you down when he has. I know it's very minor but it's not the first time he's cancelled and since we haven't been at UNI we haven't had any intimate time and I was trying to use this as an opportunity. So I'm very disappointed.
Another example of things he does is for example imagine we've just had an argument and we've made up but we're not really yet back to normal and I'm making effort to speak to him but I'm hurt. (At this point we're practically living together at UNI) he suddenly gets up to go and watch the football or goes clubbing (2 separate occasions) after another argument he claims he was giving me space. But I just feel If you've just had an argument with your girlfriend and you've made up etc you don't then leave the house and claim your going to do xyz when you mean you're trying to give someone space. The first time he did it I ended up packing he's things because I was just mad. He did it again and I'm just thinking have you not learnt from your mistakes.
I feel like I'm always the one complaining in this relationship and he's not seeing this from my point of view. I'm still annoyed at him cancelling on me and I'm not sure if I'm just over reacting or I have every right to be pissed. He seems to accept what he's done wrong but not understand. The funny thing is he isn't really the dominant sort of boyfriend he's quiet but I really don't think I'm explaining myself well
I've missed loads out but you know a girls got feelings and expectations.
*argh*
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