Well.. its been a while since I posted on TAM. Recap on the pathetic history of my marriage:
Married 13 yrs, husband starts contacting ex's and other women via internet about 7 yrs ago. Starts sneaking around with an "old friend" but denies PA. He has mental breakdown and leaves our home. Begs to come back 10 wks later. I let him.
I find out a few mths later he's still secretly seeing the OW/women. I kick him out. Separated 8 mths before he tells me another mystery OW is pregnant. I knew nothing about this OW, we were supposedly working on our marriage the entire time. He never bothered to inform me he had starting seeing someone else. Now he denies we were working on our marriage during the time he was banging OW. OW btw is 14 yrs younger than me, and a friend of his daughters (from baby mama #1).
I file for Legal Separation to make it fast and get CS and alimony in place. He goes back and forth, begs me to take him back, then I find out he's going to docs appts with pregnant OW.
I washed my hands of him, then in Oct last year he moves closer to DS and I. Informs me OW is history. OW has baby, he claims he has no contact. Says he loves me, wants to be a family again, etc. You all know the speels, I'm sure.
HE asks me to go back to marriage counseling a few months ago. I agree. He is asked to take accountability for his choices. Gets very defensive and still being secretive. MC asked him to give me access to his phone and computer, he storms out. Says "its none of your business". End of MC!
Recently he's been still telling me he wants to get back together, etc, wants to take me to dinner and spend time with me. Wanted me and DS to go on vacation with him, which I said no... due to my doubts. He has been talking about future plans with us, and wanting to move back in. I feared its only for financial reasons due to him having to pay me CS and alimony and the OW got a big chuck of $$ of him also. He doesn't have a lot to live on. He told me he has been paying OW's child support on credit cards and that will run out in a few mths.
Last week I find out he's been in regular contact with OW, goes to see the baby (he told me he didn't get any custody) and basically he has an entire secret life - yet again - that I am not privy to.
I'm so disappointed, yet again. Feel so used and taken for a fool.
Before anyone tells me how stupid I am, I still cared for him and wanted to give him the final chance to make things right.
Its going to be painful for my DS to watch his dad's downfall, and it will be a bid downfall, but I have to walk away. And remind myself he's got to face the consequences for his choices.
How it sucks to be taken for a ride by someone you loved and were married to for so long.
Married 13 yrs, husband starts contacting ex's and other women via internet about 7 yrs ago. Starts sneaking around with an "old friend" but denies PA. He has mental breakdown and leaves our home. Begs to come back 10 wks later. I let him.
I find out a few mths later he's still secretly seeing the OW/women. I kick him out. Separated 8 mths before he tells me another mystery OW is pregnant. I knew nothing about this OW, we were supposedly working on our marriage the entire time. He never bothered to inform me he had starting seeing someone else. Now he denies we were working on our marriage during the time he was banging OW. OW btw is 14 yrs younger than me, and a friend of his daughters (from baby mama #1).
I file for Legal Separation to make it fast and get CS and alimony in place. He goes back and forth, begs me to take him back, then I find out he's going to docs appts with pregnant OW.
I washed my hands of him, then in Oct last year he moves closer to DS and I. Informs me OW is history. OW has baby, he claims he has no contact. Says he loves me, wants to be a family again, etc. You all know the speels, I'm sure.
HE asks me to go back to marriage counseling a few months ago. I agree. He is asked to take accountability for his choices. Gets very defensive and still being secretive. MC asked him to give me access to his phone and computer, he storms out. Says "its none of your business". End of MC!
Recently he's been still telling me he wants to get back together, etc, wants to take me to dinner and spend time with me. Wanted me and DS to go on vacation with him, which I said no... due to my doubts. He has been talking about future plans with us, and wanting to move back in. I feared its only for financial reasons due to him having to pay me CS and alimony and the OW got a big chuck of $$ of him also. He doesn't have a lot to live on. He told me he has been paying OW's child support on credit cards and that will run out in a few mths.
Last week I find out he's been in regular contact with OW, goes to see the baby (he told me he didn't get any custody) and basically he has an entire secret life - yet again - that I am not privy to.
I'm so disappointed, yet again. Feel so used and taken for a fool.
Before anyone tells me how stupid I am, I still cared for him and wanted to give him the final chance to make things right.
Its going to be painful for my DS to watch his dad's downfall, and it will be a bid downfall, but I have to walk away. And remind myself he's got to face the consequences for his choices.
How it sucks to be taken for a ride by someone you loved and were married to for so long.
Put the internet to work for you.
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