Is there something wrong with me or is it him?

Hi I am new to this forum. I joined because there is an issue that has been bugging me and I need advice. I am 36 yrs old, I have 2 children, both are disabled and I work part time outside of the home then come home and cook, clean, take care of the kids etc. My husband doesn't work, brings in no income, and helps with the kids part of the time, as far as watching them so that I can run errands or go to the store. He is really not involved in any of their medical or school things and rarely will give me a break by taking the kids to the park alone (I always have to go along too because he says he can't handle them both). As you can imagine, I am exhausted most of the time. My husband worked when I met him, he was fit and trim, and helped me a lot with the kids when they were babies. The last few years he has become lazy and non-sympathetic to what I deal with. All he seems to care about now is sex. He is constantly mentioning to me how he is not happy that we don't have sex anymore, he says thing insinuating that if I want to stay together that I need to cater to his "needs". Honestly, I am no longer attracted to him, somewhat do to his personal appearance and lack of hygiene, some due to his laziness and the resentment I feel and some due to the fact that sex is all he ever thinks, talks or cares about! Everything is sexual to him, every day he makes sexual remarks. I can hardly have a conversation with him that is not sexual in some way. Example, last night I asked if he wanted whipped cream on his pie after dinner and he said "I's like to lick whipped cream off your pie." If I am washing dishes he walks up behind me and fondles my cheat. He grabs my butt when I walk past, if I bend over to pick something up he says things like "ohhh look at that ass, I'd like to sink my teeth into that ass". He even makes remarks like that about women on TV or in the store. He said that our daughters teacher has some nice b oobs and I was like omg shes pregnant!
Last night we were sitting on the couch and I was clearly not in a good mood and he asked what was wrong and I told him that my neck and shoulders hurt. He asked if there was anything that he could do and I said that he could rub my shoulders and instead he grinned real big and said I could rub something else, then he stuck his hand between my legs and started rubbing the crotch of my pants and making gross little sexual comments about it. I just rolled my eyes and waited till he was done then got up and walked away. I have learned not to say anything or ask that he not do that or tell him that I don't like it because then he just gets mad at me and says that there is something wrong with me and that I need to see a therapist to get over my hatred of sex. Its not that I hate it, it just that it gets annoying because its all he ever talks about. He doesn't understand why I am upset and thinks that I should just lay down, spread my legs and let him do his thing when ever he wants. It doesn't matter if I am tired or trying to clean, or cooking or what. If he is in the mood I should drop what I am doing, bend over and grab my ankles and sometimes I feel like that's what I have to do just so he can get it out of his system and I get on with my day. Is there something wrong with? Is his behavior normal in a marriage? Can I change how I feel so that I can be more accommodating and not start fights or would I be better off alone?

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