For those that know my story, I promise I will do an update in the coming weeks, I just do not have the time at the moment.
Today I am just looking for generic advice. It seems to be a pretty unanimous opinion here (at least what I have seen, could be wrong) that when it comes to gathering evidence when one suspects their spouse of cheating, that as they gather said evidence, they do it on the down low and don't confront the cheating spouse right away. You do this so you don't tip them off and then they hide anything else more thoroughly before you are able to find it.
Ok... so what about when you have found evidence that has nothing to do with an affair, but yet still is something negative? Do you still wait it out and see if you can dig deeper and find more and not let the other spouse know for a while? Or do you confront them right away so you can talk about it? That basically you found something your spouse has been lying about, and your marriage is already rocky. But has nothing to do with cheating, but still creates broken trust. Do you seek to tackle the issue at hand immediately with your spouse, or wait to see if you can find more shady things? I'm trying to figure out what to do.
Today I am just looking for generic advice. It seems to be a pretty unanimous opinion here (at least what I have seen, could be wrong) that when it comes to gathering evidence when one suspects their spouse of cheating, that as they gather said evidence, they do it on the down low and don't confront the cheating spouse right away. You do this so you don't tip them off and then they hide anything else more thoroughly before you are able to find it.
Ok... so what about when you have found evidence that has nothing to do with an affair, but yet still is something negative? Do you still wait it out and see if you can dig deeper and find more and not let the other spouse know for a while? Or do you confront them right away so you can talk about it? That basically you found something your spouse has been lying about, and your marriage is already rocky. But has nothing to do with cheating, but still creates broken trust. Do you seek to tackle the issue at hand immediately with your spouse, or wait to see if you can find more shady things? I'm trying to figure out what to do.
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