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So H and I both have some insecurities/inhibitions when it comes to sex...no biggy. So I thought, how can we find out what the other is or may be interested in, all the while sparing us both some embarrassment or whatever....I thought about the mojo upgrade questionnaire.
Only now I'm not quite sure how to react or respond to the results we got. First, I was happy to see that we are still jiving to some degree, this is a good thing after 14 years of not too much happening. However, I have concerns.
He asked what happened to answers to questions like fisting, and I explained again that if it wasn't something we both said yes to or showed interest in, it wouldn't come up. He said that just left him with more questions like if I wanted to bring people into our bedroom. I tried to address his concerns and honestly told him that I answered no to that question. It's as though he was only trying to find out what piqued my interest and not what the questionnaire was intended for. At the time, I hadn't even seen the results and realized how he'd answered.
I asked H to be brutally honest with his answers and told him I was genuinely interested in what his fantasies are and that they weren't something we necessarily had to try, but we needed to know the boundaries. He didn't answer yes to one question, that I am aware of. All of our compatible answers were "if my partner wants to" from him and "yes" or "if my partner wants to" from me. So given that stockings and heels were off the list....
How am I supposed to interpret this? He's willing to shove his finger up my a$$ if I want him to but, he otherwise isn't interested? Well that makes me feel a whole helluva lot better. Not! Am I supposed to believe that he doesn't have any fantasies or couldn't answer the questions honestly? I know that right now I feel really vulnerable in that I did honestly answer the questions and trusted that he would as well. I feel like an idiot once agin and I just want to crawl under a rock and die. So much for sparing embarrassment.
On a positive note, there are some things that we are compatible on that are new to both of us so...maybe good times ahead. But still pretty vanilla.
FF to our phone call this evening. He didn't bring up the questionnaire after I told him we could talk about it at our nightly phone call.
So H and I both have some insecurities/inhibitions when it comes to sex...no biggy. So I thought, how can we find out what the other is or may be interested in, all the while sparing us both some embarrassment or whatever....I thought about the mojo upgrade questionnaire.
Only now I'm not quite sure how to react or respond to the results we got. First, I was happy to see that we are still jiving to some degree, this is a good thing after 14 years of not too much happening. However, I have concerns.
He asked what happened to answers to questions like fisting, and I explained again that if it wasn't something we both said yes to or showed interest in, it wouldn't come up. He said that just left him with more questions like if I wanted to bring people into our bedroom. I tried to address his concerns and honestly told him that I answered no to that question. It's as though he was only trying to find out what piqued my interest and not what the questionnaire was intended for. At the time, I hadn't even seen the results and realized how he'd answered.
I asked H to be brutally honest with his answers and told him I was genuinely interested in what his fantasies are and that they weren't something we necessarily had to try, but we needed to know the boundaries. He didn't answer yes to one question, that I am aware of. All of our compatible answers were "if my partner wants to" from him and "yes" or "if my partner wants to" from me. So given that stockings and heels were off the list....
How am I supposed to interpret this? He's willing to shove his finger up my a$$ if I want him to but, he otherwise isn't interested? Well that makes me feel a whole helluva lot better. Not! Am I supposed to believe that he doesn't have any fantasies or couldn't answer the questions honestly? I know that right now I feel really vulnerable in that I did honestly answer the questions and trusted that he would as well. I feel like an idiot once agin and I just want to crawl under a rock and die. So much for sparing embarrassment.
On a positive note, there are some things that we are compatible on that are new to both of us so...maybe good times ahead. But still pretty vanilla.
FF to our phone call this evening. He didn't bring up the questionnaire after I told him we could talk about it at our nightly phone call.
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