I am very glad I found this site and have read and gained a lot of info. My story is so embarrassing and horrible I am so ashamed. My first marriage lasted 13 years and the best thing is my now 12 year old son. Ex was a decent person for the first 6 years then became a poster child for don't do drugs. He became violent and that was it. Quick healing process and great counseling.
Here is the huge problem. Met husband number two 4 years after I divorced. He had divorced 2 years prior from a long unhappy marriage similar to mine but he had no children but two adult stepchildren. We were in love and he was the perfect guy. For two and a half years he treated me like a queen and my son like his own. He was not close with any of his family and seemed to have "bad luck" with his past. Boy was I stupid.
About 7 months ago he started acting stressed and we began arguing over his lack of concern and too much time working. he would show interest one week then preoccupation the next. One weekend he was working and I couldn't get in touch with him for several hours after he was supposed to be at a game for my son. He made up a work excuse. I checked phone records and discovered texts to two different women. Long story short, he was busted, admitted it, we went to counselling. I was so stupid for not seeing the signs. Things were better for about a month then he started accusations against me and his moodiness returned. One morning I grabbed his cell phone and found emails back and forth from a few hook up sites from both men and women. I kicked him out and it did not go well.
We would talk and he kept saying how he had unresolved issues from his childhood and needed severe mental help. I agreed and wanted to be supportive during the separation. I went to counselling and he kept saying he was getting help as soon as work allowed the time. He sent a long email 2 weeks ago saying how much he loved me and there was no other woman/man and he was getting help for all of us and the pain he caused. 3 days later I get info from a friend that discovered his profile on FB and he was engaged to someone 2 weeks before I kicked him out! He tried to continue his lies then blamed it all on me. He filed yesterday at my request and he will essentially be leaving with nothing but the clothes on his back. No, this does not make me happy but vengeance was never my motive.
Sorry for the long post. I'm embarrassed, devastated, hurt...all the typical feelings. What I will never forgive myself for is allowing this person around my kid. He is actually handling it quite well but I am not. I have no family and the few work friends that know the situation are all in shock as i am.
Here is the huge problem. Met husband number two 4 years after I divorced. He had divorced 2 years prior from a long unhappy marriage similar to mine but he had no children but two adult stepchildren. We were in love and he was the perfect guy. For two and a half years he treated me like a queen and my son like his own. He was not close with any of his family and seemed to have "bad luck" with his past. Boy was I stupid.
About 7 months ago he started acting stressed and we began arguing over his lack of concern and too much time working. he would show interest one week then preoccupation the next. One weekend he was working and I couldn't get in touch with him for several hours after he was supposed to be at a game for my son. He made up a work excuse. I checked phone records and discovered texts to two different women. Long story short, he was busted, admitted it, we went to counselling. I was so stupid for not seeing the signs. Things were better for about a month then he started accusations against me and his moodiness returned. One morning I grabbed his cell phone and found emails back and forth from a few hook up sites from both men and women. I kicked him out and it did not go well.
We would talk and he kept saying how he had unresolved issues from his childhood and needed severe mental help. I agreed and wanted to be supportive during the separation. I went to counselling and he kept saying he was getting help as soon as work allowed the time. He sent a long email 2 weeks ago saying how much he loved me and there was no other woman/man and he was getting help for all of us and the pain he caused. 3 days later I get info from a friend that discovered his profile on FB and he was engaged to someone 2 weeks before I kicked him out! He tried to continue his lies then blamed it all on me. He filed yesterday at my request and he will essentially be leaving with nothing but the clothes on his back. No, this does not make me happy but vengeance was never my motive.
Sorry for the long post. I'm embarrassed, devastated, hurt...all the typical feelings. What I will never forgive myself for is allowing this person around my kid. He is actually handling it quite well but I am not. I have no family and the few work friends that know the situation are all in shock as i am.
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