Hello all. This is my first post. I was googling what I wrote in my subject line and came across this site. After reading on the site for a few hours I decided I definitely need to post immediately. Here is my situtation:
My wife and I have been married for 15 years - both of ours first marriage. We have children. My wife was travelling with her best friend (female) 6 or 7 years before we met for a period of about 2 months. While travelling, overseas she met a guy. They hung out together for about a week. She slept with him twice. He lives in a different country so they went their seperate ways but have kept in touch through face book and she made me aware of this years ago. He emails her several times each year and always on her birthday. He even sent her a teddy bear once (this was about 10 years ago). He is married as well
My wife is going on a week long business trip next week on the other side of the country. This guy is now working in the same country as us so my wife said she is going to meet up with him for coffee. He will have to make a 5 hour drive or 90 minute flight to be in the city where her conference is or as he said, "make sure he plans a busines trip there" so he can see her.
I am not happy about my wife keeping in touch with him at all and when she said she was going to meet up with him I was floored. I told her it was inappropriate because he is not just a friend - they had sex - twice. She said it probably would not have happened if she had not had a bit to drink. I said, what about the second time?
I can't forbid her to go but if she sees him despite my objections, this will be very damaging to our relationship. I deperately need feed back from men and women. I have tried to tell the story impartially as I can.
My wife and I have been married for 15 years - both of ours first marriage. We have children. My wife was travelling with her best friend (female) 6 or 7 years before we met for a period of about 2 months. While travelling, overseas she met a guy. They hung out together for about a week. She slept with him twice. He lives in a different country so they went their seperate ways but have kept in touch through face book and she made me aware of this years ago. He emails her several times each year and always on her birthday. He even sent her a teddy bear once (this was about 10 years ago). He is married as well
My wife is going on a week long business trip next week on the other side of the country. This guy is now working in the same country as us so my wife said she is going to meet up with him for coffee. He will have to make a 5 hour drive or 90 minute flight to be in the city where her conference is or as he said, "make sure he plans a busines trip there" so he can see her.
I am not happy about my wife keeping in touch with him at all and when she said she was going to meet up with him I was floored. I told her it was inappropriate because he is not just a friend - they had sex - twice. She said it probably would not have happened if she had not had a bit to drink. I said, what about the second time?
I can't forbid her to go but if she sees him despite my objections, this will be very damaging to our relationship. I deperately need feed back from men and women. I have tried to tell the story impartially as I can.
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