Hi all, I am writing to the forum to get some opinions because I just dont feel comfortable talking about some of these things with people that I know.
I have been married for 4 years now and we have one 3 yr old son. Generally we get along great and have a decent marriage but there are two problems. The first happened early in our marriage. I found an email conversation between my husband and his ex-girlfriend (whom he was engaged to before we met). This was kind of an accidental discovery as I was searching though his email with his knowledge to help with some unrelated business stuff. The ex initiated the conversation but he continued it and did not mention that he was recently married! I think the ex stopped talking to him so nothing came of it but it hurt me that he didnt tell her he was unavailable now. It makes me wonder if maybe his previous relationship was more important or more intense or something than ours.
The second problem is that after we had our kid our sex life has become much worse. (In terms of infrequency and less enjoyable). Im not sure how to correct this. It just makes my insecurity with the previous problem worse.
If I was going to be perfectly honest with myself I think my insecurity comes from the fact that sex with some of my boyfriends (before I was married-never cheated of course) was better than with my husband. The love between my husband and myself is still there but the desire-not so sure.
I have been married for 4 years now and we have one 3 yr old son. Generally we get along great and have a decent marriage but there are two problems. The first happened early in our marriage. I found an email conversation between my husband and his ex-girlfriend (whom he was engaged to before we met). This was kind of an accidental discovery as I was searching though his email with his knowledge to help with some unrelated business stuff. The ex initiated the conversation but he continued it and did not mention that he was recently married! I think the ex stopped talking to him so nothing came of it but it hurt me that he didnt tell her he was unavailable now. It makes me wonder if maybe his previous relationship was more important or more intense or something than ours.
The second problem is that after we had our kid our sex life has become much worse. (In terms of infrequency and less enjoyable). Im not sure how to correct this. It just makes my insecurity with the previous problem worse.
If I was going to be perfectly honest with myself I think my insecurity comes from the fact that sex with some of my boyfriends (before I was married-never cheated of course) was better than with my husband. The love between my husband and myself is still there but the desire-not so sure.
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