Hi, new to the whole message board thing but looking for opinions and advice.
I have been married for 8 1/2 years and with my wife for 10. We have two young kids ages 5 and 2. For quite a few years now my wife has talked about wanting to move away from the area we live. Recently it has become an all out battle to where she says nothing else I do matters unless I am willing to move. We live in the area we both are from and we both have have family here. I do have much more family and I am closer with that family but she does have some here. I also have a job I enjoy and that I have been at for more than 10 years. My job is very secure with good pay and great benefits. We have had issues over probably the last 7 years about money, intimacy and our location. There has been no infidelity on either part though. I still love my wife very much and I am still very attracted to her as well, but there is nothing from her end has not been for a long while. Even if things were perfect between us I would be very reluctant to give up the security that com es with my job and my extended family and support system. With things the way they have been I can't even consider it. All I see is us doing this and ending in divorce anyway in some random place and having absolutely no support system or us or our kids and no financial security either with a brand new job. I can see the reason for this other than to make her happy and I'm not even sure it would do that.
Am I wrong for not being willing to make such a leap or is she wrong to expect me to and tell me that if I don't I don't love her or care for her?
I have been married for 8 1/2 years and with my wife for 10. We have two young kids ages 5 and 2. For quite a few years now my wife has talked about wanting to move away from the area we live. Recently it has become an all out battle to where she says nothing else I do matters unless I am willing to move. We live in the area we both are from and we both have have family here. I do have much more family and I am closer with that family but she does have some here. I also have a job I enjoy and that I have been at for more than 10 years. My job is very secure with good pay and great benefits. We have had issues over probably the last 7 years about money, intimacy and our location. There has been no infidelity on either part though. I still love my wife very much and I am still very attracted to her as well, but there is nothing from her end has not been for a long while. Even if things were perfect between us I would be very reluctant to give up the security that com es with my job and my extended family and support system. With things the way they have been I can't even consider it. All I see is us doing this and ending in divorce anyway in some random place and having absolutely no support system or us or our kids and no financial security either with a brand new job. I can see the reason for this other than to make her happy and I'm not even sure it would do that.
Am I wrong for not being willing to make such a leap or is she wrong to expect me to and tell me that if I don't I don't love her or care for her?
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