Hi,
I just wanted some advice really, I have a friend who is going through a few issues and has been for some time, around 3 years I'd say.
Her issues are that she has 2 children with a man who is a heroin addict, this obviously upsets her and distresses her as he treats her terribly, there's no violence as she would definitely tell me as we're close, but she often finds him using in the house or he spends all their money on drugs. I am normally the person she turns to when she's feeling upset which I do not mind a lot of the time.
She phoned me today, I was explaining to her that my Dad is ill at the minute and I am really worried about him. She then started crying and talking about herself and her relationship issues, basically she sweeped my issues aside just so she could talk about herself. This really ****** me off and I ended up shouting at her and saying some really horrible things to her. The conversation ended with me saying that having one kid with him is bad enough but having a second and then moaning about it for years is her own fault and she deserves to be treated like a ****.
What I said was out of anger and I meant it but I was angry and the way it came across was obviously horrible.
It's just sometimes it gets a bit much when every single time you speak to someone they're still unhappy and they still moan about it but do absolutely NOTHING to help themselves.
I feel horrible about it and I don't really know if I should try and save the friendship or not...... I feel like her therapist, it's like she doesn't understand that I have problems to.
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