Hello All,
I am new to this site and I was hoping I could get a little relationship advice. I have been married for 15 years and have two teenage children with my spouse. Lately, I have not been happy and things have not been working out. I am leaning towards divorce but I don't want to make the wrong decision. Long story short, my spouse works two jobs (one by choice - he is a bartender and loves to serve drinks and hang out with his friends) and is rarely home. I am left to take care of pretty much everything by myself. I feel that my husband puts forth minimal effort in regards to this marriage, the household and the raising of our kids. When I discuss my feelings with him he becomes super defensive and takes my comments out of context. My spouse thinks that everything is fine, because our intimacy is great). But, that is not enough and I still feel lonely and frustrated! The worse part of this whole situation is that I am a laid back type of person. If he wants to bartend, hang out with the guys, or whatever, I don't mind because I hang out with my girl friends also. I am not the jealous type, but my husband is. He alienated all of my male friends and made me give them up. At the time I didn't mind because he had didn't have any female friends and that was his reasoning for not having friends of the opposite sex. But now he has a female friend that he spends a lot of time communicating with. I honestly could care less about this girl, however, I would like to open the lines of communication with my male friends and when i broach the issue he acts nuts.
There is more but I feel like I am ranting, so I will stop typing for now. Am I asking for too much? All I want is him to spend more quality time with me and my teens. I guess I just need a man's opinion. Am I being naive about the friend?
I am new to this site and I was hoping I could get a little relationship advice. I have been married for 15 years and have two teenage children with my spouse. Lately, I have not been happy and things have not been working out. I am leaning towards divorce but I don't want to make the wrong decision. Long story short, my spouse works two jobs (one by choice - he is a bartender and loves to serve drinks and hang out with his friends) and is rarely home. I am left to take care of pretty much everything by myself. I feel that my husband puts forth minimal effort in regards to this marriage, the household and the raising of our kids. When I discuss my feelings with him he becomes super defensive and takes my comments out of context. My spouse thinks that everything is fine, because our intimacy is great). But, that is not enough and I still feel lonely and frustrated! The worse part of this whole situation is that I am a laid back type of person. If he wants to bartend, hang out with the guys, or whatever, I don't mind because I hang out with my girl friends also. I am not the jealous type, but my husband is. He alienated all of my male friends and made me give them up. At the time I didn't mind because he had didn't have any female friends and that was his reasoning for not having friends of the opposite sex. But now he has a female friend that he spends a lot of time communicating with. I honestly could care less about this girl, however, I would like to open the lines of communication with my male friends and when i broach the issue he acts nuts.
There is more but I feel like I am ranting, so I will stop typing for now. Am I asking for too much? All I want is him to spend more quality time with me and my teens. I guess I just need a man's opinion. Am I being naive about the friend?
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