Hello all, I did not see a place for this so I'm going to place it here. If there is such a place for introductions, Mods please feel free to move this thread. Thank you.
My wife and I have been married for almost 20 yrs. We are in our mid forties & we have 2 teenagers, 16 yr old son & 14 yr old daughter. Needless to say we have had our share of ups and downs along the way. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been in AA for 5+ years. My wife is not in Al-Anon and refuses to be part of it. I work FT and my wife works PT. I would like to work a normal 40 hr week instead of my usual 60+ hr week. My wife works about 4 hrs a week and does not contribute to the household budget. So this has created a riff between us. Not to say that a SAHM is not a good thing, I am very grateful to my wife for choosing to stay at home when the kids were smaller. I just think at our kids ages it's time to move on and help us out of debt. I'm sure i'll get clobbered for that last statement. We live in a sexless marriage, almost a year now. There was never any consistency to our sex life. and it has dwindled to nothing in the last 3/4 years. I'm at a loss. I've grown t o resent my wife for the lack of sex & the lack of help with the finances, among other things she has control over but refuses to do. So, Now we are headed for a separation I think. I told her a couple weeks back that I was done with it. Meaning the fighting and lack of intimacy and walking on eggshells everyday, and myself staying depressed over the situation. Now we are just living in the same house like 2 strangers, rarely talking, no affection, and its killing me. I think our relationship has run its course and it's time to move on. Way too many bad emotions inside this house and I feel that the kids have seen way too much fighting and silent treatments to correct now. I can only pray that they will be happy in their relationships later on in life. I know this has been a boatload of things to put in an introduction, But I guess i just needed to vent a bit. For what its worth, Hello everyone and I appreciate any and all advice. Thanks for letting me join, I look forward t o getting to know you all. Thanks again,
Juan
My wife and I have been married for almost 20 yrs. We are in our mid forties & we have 2 teenagers, 16 yr old son & 14 yr old daughter. Needless to say we have had our share of ups and downs along the way. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been in AA for 5+ years. My wife is not in Al-Anon and refuses to be part of it. I work FT and my wife works PT. I would like to work a normal 40 hr week instead of my usual 60+ hr week. My wife works about 4 hrs a week and does not contribute to the household budget. So this has created a riff between us. Not to say that a SAHM is not a good thing, I am very grateful to my wife for choosing to stay at home when the kids were smaller. I just think at our kids ages it's time to move on and help us out of debt. I'm sure i'll get clobbered for that last statement. We live in a sexless marriage, almost a year now. There was never any consistency to our sex life. and it has dwindled to nothing in the last 3/4 years. I'm at a loss. I've grown t o resent my wife for the lack of sex & the lack of help with the finances, among other things she has control over but refuses to do. So, Now we are headed for a separation I think. I told her a couple weeks back that I was done with it. Meaning the fighting and lack of intimacy and walking on eggshells everyday, and myself staying depressed over the situation. Now we are just living in the same house like 2 strangers, rarely talking, no affection, and its killing me. I think our relationship has run its course and it's time to move on. Way too many bad emotions inside this house and I feel that the kids have seen way too much fighting and silent treatments to correct now. I can only pray that they will be happy in their relationships later on in life. I know this has been a boatload of things to put in an introduction, But I guess i just needed to vent a bit. For what its worth, Hello everyone and I appreciate any and all advice. Thanks for letting me join, I look forward t o getting to know you all. Thanks again,
Juan
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