I really can't stress enough how much my long-distance boyfriend of one and a half years means to me. At times, particularly when we're actually together, I think he might be the one. He is uncommonly kind, sweet, generous and makes me so happy.
However, for several months now I've been doubting us and our future. What am I supposed to do? It feels like we're living in opposite bubbles- i'm in 2nd year of uni doing a science degree and he works full time in a restaurant as a waiter/barman back home. This is the only job he's ever had and it doesn't look like he has any ambition to do anything else with his life. This in its self wouldn't bother me too much if it weren't for the fact that his whole attitude to life is the same as it is to his career- he sometimes struggles to get out of bed and do anything with his day and would much rather stay inside watching t.v all day instead of going out and doing things. I'm the opposite, love to be busy and productive and have loads of ambition and hopes for the future.
He still lives with his mum and she does everything for him, he's like a child but is actually 23 years old. I, on the other hand, have lived independent of my parents for nearly 2 years now. It frustrates me when I go to his house and we can't have a minute's peace together because his mum constantly comes to nag to him about something.
His family come from a very deprived background and his dad has a history of drug taking amongst other criminal offences. My boyfriend is embarrassed about his dad's past and i know he wouldn't ever go down the same path, but our families are so soo different. His family are so loud and are all party animals whereas mine are much more reserved and quiet. Nobody in his family has gone to uni but everyone in my family has. I don't care about status or anything like that but my family, mum in particular, do. I'm worried she'll really hate my boyfriend's family when she eventually meets them and won't approve of our relationship any more.
It sounds cliché but it really does feel like our lives are going in opposite directions and we have so little in common and I don't know what to do. Are these differences something a couple can deal with? I know people say it shouldn't matter if couples have differences because as long as you love each other that is the main thing- but in reality differences can destroy the most hopeful of relationships :( What should I do?
However, for several months now I've been doubting us and our future. What am I supposed to do? It feels like we're living in opposite bubbles- i'm in 2nd year of uni doing a science degree and he works full time in a restaurant as a waiter/barman back home. This is the only job he's ever had and it doesn't look like he has any ambition to do anything else with his life. This in its self wouldn't bother me too much if it weren't for the fact that his whole attitude to life is the same as it is to his career- he sometimes struggles to get out of bed and do anything with his day and would much rather stay inside watching t.v all day instead of going out and doing things. I'm the opposite, love to be busy and productive and have loads of ambition and hopes for the future.
He still lives with his mum and she does everything for him, he's like a child but is actually 23 years old. I, on the other hand, have lived independent of my parents for nearly 2 years now. It frustrates me when I go to his house and we can't have a minute's peace together because his mum constantly comes to nag to him about something.
His family come from a very deprived background and his dad has a history of drug taking amongst other criminal offences. My boyfriend is embarrassed about his dad's past and i know he wouldn't ever go down the same path, but our families are so soo different. His family are so loud and are all party animals whereas mine are much more reserved and quiet. Nobody in his family has gone to uni but everyone in my family has. I don't care about status or anything like that but my family, mum in particular, do. I'm worried she'll really hate my boyfriend's family when she eventually meets them and won't approve of our relationship any more.
It sounds cliché but it really does feel like our lives are going in opposite directions and we have so little in common and I don't know what to do. Are these differences something a couple can deal with? I know people say it shouldn't matter if couples have differences because as long as you love each other that is the main thing- but in reality differences can destroy the most hopeful of relationships :( What should I do?
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