So yeah got dumped, girlfriend said I was great and everything but in an impossible situation with parents and cultural clashes.
I'm 50% concerned she was lying and actually dumped me for some other reason-namely she wanted to get with her guyf riend who is just a better guy than me in general; more good looking, more sociable, smarter (I thinkgiven hs track record) and more sociable. They're better off together. She keeps saying he's just a friend but there's no reason. If I were her I'd cheat on me for him anyway.
oh look I repeated sociable
I have always had this prevailign sense of inadequacy, not being good enough and my experience of life teaches me that in fact this is true. Western society does not give a **** about how you feel, all it wants is what you can give.
People say I'm smart but I'm not really, the other day I got a First and when I was awarded my scholarship but this is still not enough because my brother got Firsts in absolutely everything, graduated top of his year and is now acing his phD, he's going to be paid more. He also got 6A Levels at A Level whereas I got A* A B which TSR will agree is pretty average. Lo and behold he's now the creme de la creme of his year and social circle.
I am nice or at least care for others/will help them out when I can such as helping blind men across the road but everyone knows nice guys finish last, hence why she dumped me. Hence also why everyone on my course thinks I'm a creep. Hence why TSR hates me.
I try to be funny but evidently I'm not. People like me to cheer them up when they're down, little else.
I think that I have interests and I take interest in the world around me but whenever I talk to people I realise there's nothing I know that they don't, nothing interesting anyway. They tend to know more than me.
I'm 21but I feel like I'm 12. I often try making this a joke but I whole-heartedly believe it, I don't fit in with my social group. I don't belong at university.
I am musical but was rejected from a band-my friend's band-whcih suggests to me I'm a **** musician.
I am back to the phase I had especially with Valentine's Day coming up where I will sometimes start feeling like a lesser human being when I eat chocolate. I'm hoping my parents don't catch on. I'm 150 pounds which people say is skinny but my eating chocolate demonstrates the lack fo self-control, another reason she may have dumped me. The breakup ahs took me back to getting rejected in Year 6 at the schol disco by a girl for being fat.
I haven't considered whether there were any inadequacies of hers because she initiated the breakup when I was trying to fix it. That suggests she's better, and progressing in life while leaving me behind, who will hold her back. She always tells me the opposite that she wasn't good enough for me (only TSR sees me voicing my fears quite like this, few people IRL would bother lsitening|) I keep reading this as code, basically reverse everything 'I'm not good enough for you'=I'm not good enough for her, 'I'm holding you back'=I'm holding her back, etc.
Conventional wisdom says I should improve because being myself didn't get me very far. I believe she's freidnzoned me out of pity, hence why she's in touch.
I did everything in my power to improve but, like Jay Gatsby, realised it's never enough. You still fail, get over it.
This is the point where people say 'be yourself'? Is accepting and loving yourself really a cure to feeling **** and being rejected? No! The answerr is I wasn't good enough.
On a related note it'd maybe be easier to overcome these feelings if it was OK to just be 'me' (who's a little different and sometimes ditzy but not nearly as depressing), but most advice you et about the dating scene etc. is basically that you are not good enough as you are, otherwise someone would be attracted to you and eventually love you. The overiding message I get from all of this is 'I am leaving you because you are not good enough for most people, not just me'
Challenge me if you will.
I'm 50% concerned she was lying and actually dumped me for some other reason-namely she wanted to get with her guyf riend who is just a better guy than me in general; more good looking, more sociable, smarter (I thinkgiven hs track record) and more sociable. They're better off together. She keeps saying he's just a friend but there's no reason. If I were her I'd cheat on me for him anyway.
oh look I repeated sociable
I have always had this prevailign sense of inadequacy, not being good enough and my experience of life teaches me that in fact this is true. Western society does not give a **** about how you feel, all it wants is what you can give.
People say I'm smart but I'm not really, the other day I got a First and when I was awarded my scholarship but this is still not enough because my brother got Firsts in absolutely everything, graduated top of his year and is now acing his phD, he's going to be paid more. He also got 6A Levels at A Level whereas I got A* A B which TSR will agree is pretty average. Lo and behold he's now the creme de la creme of his year and social circle.
I am nice or at least care for others/will help them out when I can such as helping blind men across the road but everyone knows nice guys finish last, hence why she dumped me. Hence also why everyone on my course thinks I'm a creep. Hence why TSR hates me.
I try to be funny but evidently I'm not. People like me to cheer them up when they're down, little else.
I think that I have interests and I take interest in the world around me but whenever I talk to people I realise there's nothing I know that they don't, nothing interesting anyway. They tend to know more than me.
I'm 21but I feel like I'm 12. I often try making this a joke but I whole-heartedly believe it, I don't fit in with my social group. I don't belong at university.
I am musical but was rejected from a band-my friend's band-whcih suggests to me I'm a **** musician.
I am back to the phase I had especially with Valentine's Day coming up where I will sometimes start feeling like a lesser human being when I eat chocolate. I'm hoping my parents don't catch on. I'm 150 pounds which people say is skinny but my eating chocolate demonstrates the lack fo self-control, another reason she may have dumped me. The breakup ahs took me back to getting rejected in Year 6 at the schol disco by a girl for being fat.
I haven't considered whether there were any inadequacies of hers because she initiated the breakup when I was trying to fix it. That suggests she's better, and progressing in life while leaving me behind, who will hold her back. She always tells me the opposite that she wasn't good enough for me (only TSR sees me voicing my fears quite like this, few people IRL would bother lsitening|) I keep reading this as code, basically reverse everything 'I'm not good enough for you'=I'm not good enough for her, 'I'm holding you back'=I'm holding her back, etc.
Conventional wisdom says I should improve because being myself didn't get me very far. I believe she's freidnzoned me out of pity, hence why she's in touch.
I did everything in my power to improve but, like Jay Gatsby, realised it's never enough. You still fail, get over it.
This is the point where people say 'be yourself'? Is accepting and loving yourself really a cure to feeling **** and being rejected? No! The answerr is I wasn't good enough.
On a related note it'd maybe be easier to overcome these feelings if it was OK to just be 'me' (who's a little different and sometimes ditzy but not nearly as depressing), but most advice you et about the dating scene etc. is basically that you are not good enough as you are, otherwise someone would be attracted to you and eventually love you. The overiding message I get from all of this is 'I am leaving you because you are not good enough for most people, not just me'
Challenge me if you will.
Put the internet to work for you.
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